After the injury mercilessly took away his health and forced him to lie on his deathbed, he still refused to give in to fate, overcame all kinds of difficulties, wrote with tenacious perseverance and practiced his life vows in another way.
The phrase "iron bars are ground into needles" came true in Paul. From him, I learned a lot worse things. Everyone will do different things when facing bad luck. Some will give up and have suicidal thoughts. The more unlucky some people are, the more they have to fight against bad luck. How the Steel was Tempered must have been tempered many times. Isn't the human will the same?
The<& lt steel is made in this way. I like it very much. Paul embodies the most outstanding spiritual quality of that era-the noble quality of dedication to the ideal. This spirit is worth learning.
& lt& lt> This is a story about a naughty boy. Although many people think this book is worth reading by boys, I am curious why we girls can't read it!
Although we girls are quiet on the surface, we are actually crazier than boys. Although girls are more careful and boys are sloppy, girls are timid and boys are so brave and bold. Sometimes I really admire those boys.
The book & lt& lt> made me understand that we should learn from the boldness and decisiveness of boys. Girls are sometimes hesitant and tired, so boys and girls should learn from each other! As Confucius said, "A teacher is better than a threesome. Choose good and follow it, and change it if it is evil. "
These two books make me strong, let me learn from each other's strengths, and at the same time let me face difficulties with a smiling face instead of a short frown. In fact, the words in the book are the real philosophy of life.
NO.2 instills the world language, and the relationship between father and son is long.
-feeling after reading Fu Lei's letter
Everyone has biological parents, and most of them have experienced their love and teaching. When I read this letter from home, I felt a different kind of teaching, not the teacher's teaching, not the elder's persuasion, but the parents' concern for their children, which is different from my parents' concern, but it does not lose the feeling of being carefully cared for. I seem to have found another kind of parental love, which most children can't understand. This may be the reason why I loved her for ten years. It's a letter from home, like a precious heart-to-heart, which brings us closer. I feel, listen and remember with my heart like a good boy.
Father Fu Lei is a wise, knowledgeable and upright scholar. When I was young, I was even a little violent and full of personality. Mother Zhu Meifu is an oriental woman with oriental cultural accomplishment and has been baptized by western culture. She is dignified, virtuous and kind.
His father, Fu Lei, dabbled in a wide range, made profound research on literature, music, painting and both at home and abroad, and his personal cultural accomplishment was extremely high. The object of his training is to receive a good family education from an early age and finally grow into Fu Cong, the son of an international master. He deeply understands that art, even like piano playing, needs strict technical factors, but it is by no means a "craft", but a manifestation of wholehearted and complete personality. He educated his son and said, "I always think that the most important thing is' people', and we should cultivate a' person' as much as possible. Before becoming an artist, we must learn to be human, otherwise that kind of family will not make much contribution to mankind. " A person who is purely devoted to art has nothing but art and personal personality.
The so-called "person" is concrete and subtle in Fu Lei's mind, not just a wish, but a slogan. From loyalty and dedication to the world, to strictness in one's own career, to filial piety to parents, to understanding of his wife, to tolerance to friends, even the handling of a piece of music, communication with friends, and even the words and manners of his son, all warn readers that "hands should be upright and people should stand up straight".
In that sinister era, when personal safety was not guaranteed, the mother took care of her distant son and grandson. She restrained her inner fears and pains and gave her strong, peaceful and meticulous care to her relatives who were wandering in foreign countries. A sweater knitted for her grandson is as heavy as a mountain, but she is uneasy about the "gift book". In order to let her son feel the warmth of family in a foreign country, she meticulously wrote down the cooking program for fear of missing a detail. She loved her husband and son and devoted her life to this family. However, the trampling and insult to her personal dignity made her unbearable any longer. The husband and wife merged their lives and moved towards eternity, perhaps more favoritism, which was also an ending. However, this end has never been separated from the couple.
As role models of China people, the couple spent their whole lives cultivating their two sons. The eldest son Fu Cong became the famous piano master, and the youngest son Fu Min became a special English teacher. They taught their son to be a "person" first and then a "home". At the end of their lives, it ends with the word "people". All good memories don't want to humiliate themselves, and I don't want to let so many unpleasant things in my life make me unbearable. They would rather abandon themselves and get a kind of relief to complete the interpretation of people.
Their death shocked me. I no longer feel pain for them as I did when I was young. I just want them to rest in peace for half a century.
It is their strict family education that has cultivated world-class masters of art, just as a pair of Fu Lei, friends of Lou Shi, "disapprove" of their son Fu Cong's strict and meticulous family education. However, it is this strict family education that has created a beautiful life for him and left a mirror for thousands of parents in Qian Qian. Let's see what we gave the children. How do we do things for children?
In the book, we not only see a strict and caring father, but also see the growth of father and son. His music translation communicates with his son, and his concern and love for the development of the motherland are also revealed to the students. Fu Lei is doing his duty to the society, the motherland and the human world with a highly responsible spirit and heart. His son Fu Cong learned a lot from his wandering career in a foreign country, but his father made him feel like an orphan overseas, as if his parents were still around, giving him guidance, encouragement and encouragement from time to time, giving him the courage and strength to overcome all kinds of evil influences and obstacles and set foot on the road of his proper growth. Through these letters, he not only established a strong bond between his son and his relatives, but also Fu Cong was firmly separated from the motherland through this bond. Later, it was proved that regardless of the cruel experience of his family and the notoriety he bore, he never turned his back on his motherland, was threatened and lured by his enemies in many ways, and never said or did anything detrimental to the dignity of his motherland. This is a father's influence on a son, which is inseparable from his ardent patriotic education for his son who is thousands of miles away. Time and distance are not a problem. Caring parents, your sleepless beloved son, are irreplaceable textbooks and gas stations of life.
This concern is not a conscious stage, but accompanied by fatherly love. The serious father never shirked his responsibility. Even when Shanghai was surrounded by Japan, he kept his children at home, which appeared in his young body and mind very early. He has the qualities of a musician. Just as he treats himself as carefully and meticulously as he treats young children. He personally compiles teaching materials, gives classes to children every day, and is strict with children. He did it and asked his son to do it together. It's really a real father and son. I am surprised at this father-son relationship in the world. Yes, I am a friend and a comrade.
In addition to feeling that Fu Lei has a wealth of translated works and impressive achievements, he is also such a near-perfect person, integrating art and life into his life beautifully. His life is regular, life is a beautiful arc, and the bits and pieces left to us warm the hearts of every teenager, youth and parents.
When treating his son, he said, "I'm glad that I have another friend and my son has become a friend. What in the world can grow with this happiness? " Moreover, he said modestly and sincerely: "In getting along with my son, I learned patience, speaking skills and emotional sublimation." Teach us how to get along with children and what attitude to associate with. "When the child is suffering, he said," Bitter tears are the wine that cultivates your soul. People who have not experienced severe pain will not have deep and extensive sympathy. "He didn't do everything for his children, but he was happy with the process of their transformation and encouraged him to have a more sincere heart in art." Don't worry about success or failure, just do your best and live up to your heart.
In order to guide his son to devote all his energy to research and study, use more reason and less emotion, and restrain all troubles with strong confidence, he said: "Art is the purpose, and skill is the means. People who always pay attention to means will inevitably forget his purpose. "
Facing the money order sent by college students to their parents, there is no other greeting. The father warned his son that writing letters is forcing you to sort out your thoughts, which is also an excellent training. How much we need it now.
In daily life, he warned his son that "people always have to push themselves." If they don't force themselves, they can't solve the problem. The most basic thing is to seize the time "; "Doing things scientifically and thoroughly"; "Don't be embarrassed in the outside world and be casually stayed by others, so as not to disturb the scheduled schedule"; "Modifying small habits is tantamount to modifying one's own consciousness and temperament". I think it is an urgent problem in our life.
However, such a person who is strict with himself and teaches his children, he said: "The name outside the body is only pursued and amazed by ordinary people in society; It has nothing to do with the smallness and greatness of the individual. Confucius said' let wealth and fame be like clouds', and modern' fame and fortune' also belongs to spiritual' wealth'. Wise people are indifferent and don't be bound by greed. Don't forget the life guide for your famous and married son.
When he became an adult, his son was faced with emotional choices, but he also took the opportunity to help him: "It is very important to find a partner who can recognize each other's shortcomings, admit each other, be willing to change gradually, and tolerate each other at the same time." To find a permanent partner, we should also consider it rationally, don't be blinded by feelings, and be convinced that marriage will change, and don't believe it in advance. " When they got married, he told them not to have money on hand, but to spend money. The more they despised material things, the more they needed control.
Reading everywhere, there are repeated exhortations, warm reminders, like a friend's heart-to-heart, and some even point to play again and pity the wind of inheritance. Are these gentle words like a trickle just the nagging of ordinary parents? This is a Millennium belief. Opening every page is refreshing, and my heart can always be dyed golden.
Letters written by sons Fu Cong and Fu Min to their father are also attached to the book. These letters don't seem to disappear forever. They are lucky to be read by our readers as such a good book, which adds a little democracy and equality to the rest of the commandments. Unfortunately, such a happy family was split up prematurely by the times. As an educator and a parent, I am pushing this book. Maybe you can learn more from it. You might as well read it yourself.
Third, my reading experience.
For me, reading is a test. This kind of trial is like a critic describing Baudelaire's writing state: he lies on a dark black slate and dissects himself with a bright knife. The difference is that I hold a mirror in my left hand and a knife in my right hand; Finally, it was found that the knife was blunt and the body was empty.
I observed on the slate. Where is the mirror? Mirror or mirror? My "reading" career started with picture books. Older children in the village borrow picture books from junior high school. Some older children also climbed to the teacher's house or the supply and marketing cooperative to steal picture books. I returned it the next day, so I took turns reading a picture book in the village and read it until dawn, instead of staring blankly. When primary school comes home from school, the main task is to herd cattle, and there are more opportunities to read picture books than others. One of the most commonly used phrases at that time was probably "the spring breeze of reform". In this Spring Breeze, I feel the "misery" of my parents' life. This "sense of hardship" is getting stronger and stronger, and eventually it becomes the only "eye" for me as a minor to pay attention to every grass and tree in the countryside. When I was in high school, I thought hard about the fate of farmers. The more books you read, the deeper you feel the vastness of the world, the infinity of knowledge and the infinity of thinking, and the closer and more ethereal people's fate is. I unconsciously embarked on the road of abstraction. At that time, "rural thinking" was far away, but the dimension of "human destiny" was unforgettable. Why study? I can't say it clearly, because when I realized this problem, reading was already in itself. But I know: where I study, there is nothing but "human destiny", the fate of people in daily necessities, the fate of the world and the fate of human beings. In this way, I pay attention to people's fate from near to far, from here to there.
I believe Schopenhauer's theory: people who like to read at a glance are lazy, and only those who need to think over and over can really read. I think the same is true of a nation. A nation without profound works is not profound. The real difficulty is not because it is far from our daily life, but because it faces the complexity of the world itself. So is my reading. I like reading difficult books. I emphasize imagination and association in reading. Abstract theoretical expression, while thinking and understanding, I restore it to the picture of daily life. Some only need ready-made associations, while others need imaginary structures. I always think that people who can't input abstract concepts are unimaginative people; If an unimaginative person thinks that he understands an abstract concept, the concept is already a dead thing to him, and he has neither the ability to connect nor the ability to generate.
Reading is abstract, and the feeling of fate is concrete. In the abstract reading and realistic feeling, I understand the fate of my ideas. We grew up in the era of reform, but we grew up accepting ready-made impersonal concepts. Many education and ideas have been deeply involved in physiological reactions. I have to break through from all aspects. People can't leave the earth by scratching their hair. In the self-justifying internal breakthrough, the only way is to consciously introduce differences. I am glad to meet something that can prove my feelings and opinions, but I am more glad to meet something different, even negative. I call it differential reading. I seldom simply read a book or an idea. I always read many books with different views at the same time. The more convinced you are of an opinion or a book, the more you want to find a different book to debate.