I received a letter from a male reader. After reading it with mixed feelings, I agreed to arrange and publish it. For narrative convenience, write in the first person. I have known about my wife's family for a long time, and I am not married. My father-in-law used to be a teacher, and his salary may exceed 3000 yuan after retirement.

My mother-in-law used to do odd jobs in the school library, but now she works part-time to supplement her family. She has a sister who works in a local toy factory. Both her husband and her salary are not high, making ends meet. The other brother, who is only 22 years old this year, is a socially unhealthy young man. He has no formal job, idles around all day and lives at home.

Frankly speaking, my wife's family situation is still average, at least compared with mine, the gap is still relatively large. Therefore, when we get married, my parents will strongly object. I know this very well, but according to my income, it is no problem to support a family.

So when choosing a spouse, I didn't care about each other's financial situation at all. What moved me most was my wife's personality. My mother is a young girl with a gentle temperament, saying that no woman I have ever met is gentler than my wife. Especially when I am upset, she has a strange ability. In a few words, she can reassure people.

This method is very helpful to me. When I was a child, I was most afraid of strong women, just like my mother. She will make money, have her own opinions and like to manipulate others. No matter what you say to her, she will be eager to interrupt you and completely deny you.

I've had enough of my strong mother's pain and went to find someone who is just the opposite of her character. I think I will have a perfect family with my earning power and my wife's kindness. Who knows, this marriage continues to this day, trivial and full of dog blood.

After marriage, I am completely transparent about my wife's income. Not much to say every year, there are always two or three hundred thousand. Such a fourth-tier town can live comfortably, and at least hundreds of thousands can be saved every year except for daily expenses. I'm not too worried about the cost of living. My parents-in-law asked me for money for the first time, and I didn't take it to heart.

In July of that year, my father-in-law said that the house he lived in had been more than 20 years, and the decoration was too old, so many furniture could not be used. It needs renovation and reconstruction, and he wants to borrow 20,000 yuan from us. How can you call it "borrowing" when your brain is hot at that time? Twenty thousand dollars is not much. Take it.

At this time, I still remember my father-in-law's expression. He seems a little shocked and surprised. His hands trembled slightly when he took the money. My wife is very grateful for this. Their whole family praised me and said that her marriage to me was the greatest happiness in their life.

These words made me very uneasy and immediately put the money behind me. However, on the National Day of 10, I visited my father-in-law again, only to find that the house was not decorated. For the sake of face, I won't ask. I'm glad to let my father-in-law have something, okay?

That winter, the so-called decoration was still gone. My parents-in-law went home again. This time, they said that my brother-in-law wanted to take the adult self-study exam, which cost more than 10 thousand yuan at a time. Considering the last experience, I paid attention to it. By the way, where did all the 20 thousand yuan spent in July go?

Mother-in-law's expression immediately embarrassed. After a long time, they confessed falteringly. It turned out that the money my brother-in-law got was said to have spent money to get through the relationship and found himself a leisure job. But the money was spent and things were done. He worked for two months, but he was killed and refused to leave, crying to go to school …

Then I realized something was wrong. It is said that emergency does not save the poor, and this method of filling the pit is not acceptable. I had to call Tai Chi Chuan, thinking that all the money at home had time deposits and I couldn't get it out for the time being. The old woman was also sent away, and my wife and I were in a hurry. She has a gentle temper and can kill people with jokes.

You don't yell, but hang your eyes and follow the teacup for help without saying a word, but as long as she looks up, you will die with guilt, as if you have done something terrible and wronged her …

This stalemate for two days, I really can't stand it, so I have to let her make her own decisions and watch me upset.

My wife was very happy and told me a lot about her childhood, how difficult it was for her parents to raise them, how grateful she was to her family, and how deep the friendship between brother and sister was ...

Well, at that moment, I had a bad feeling that something like this would be indispensable in the future. Sure enough, the next spring, my uncle was annoyed again, saying that he had stabbed someone else's car outside and was claimed by the other party for 30 thousand. If he doesn't get the money, he may be detained.

At this time, the wife and family were panicked. From my parents-in-law to my sister, I took turns to come to the door to plead. The wife cried in front of her again, saying that her brother left a criminal record and his life was ruined. She also told me that she could deduct this penny from her living expenses.

I was going to Europe for my honeymoon, but now I'm going alone, so her share can be saved …

Listen, do I still like someone? Only in this way can I see clearly that other people's "blessed land" are sons forced out alive by their parents, and my wife Niu X is also broken. She is a willing "blessed land" and does not feel wronged.

He was completely brainwashed. Through talking with her, I found that she fully agreed with her parents' behavior and even her brother's status, which she deserved.

For her, her brother's plans and even sacrifices are taken for granted-because his brother is the "only child" in the family, and his brother has been passed down from generation to generation ...

I'm more persistent this time. First of all, I just don't want to be a cashier at my wife's house shamelessly. On the other hand, from the brother-in-law's point of view, he really should learn some lessons so that he can remember them for a long time.

It was another coincidence that my mother was there when my parents-in-law came to the door again. They don't understand my mother's temper and complain in front of my mother …

At this time, my mother was very angry. As soon as her parents-in-law left, she immediately ordered her wife to print out all the bank card transactions, and she wanted to check the large amount of water.

At this time, my wife's face was still hanging and she was crying silently. My mother began to ask me how much money I gave my wife's family for more than a year. I know what will happen if I tell the truth, so I deliberately hide it.

However, before I left, my mother warned me that even if I was killed, I couldn't give the money, otherwise there would be no stable life at home ... The situation is still improving. My father-in-law sold his Civic and lost money to my brother-in-law.

Although things have passed, the feelings between our husband and wife are still very poor. Even the elder sister's family sneered at me, saying that although my family is rich, it is cold-blooded, completely ignoring the feelings of relatives …

Thought of here, I can't help laughing. Sometimes I really envy my parents-in-law. Literati are really cultured, and I don't know what tricks they used to brainwash their two daughters. At this time, I once again reflected on my wife's gentleness, and I suddenly realized.

Perhaps, from the beginning, she firmly believed that "men are superior to women" and thought that she was inferior to my brother and me, so she would naturally give priority to me and look down on my eyes …

Since then, there are not many parents-in-law who are suitable for each other. Every Spring Festival, my husband and wife take the initiative to visit. My wife will bring some fruit home to visit relatives on weekends. I know she has to submit to some money, but as long as there is not much money, I close my eyes.

My brother-in-law was a talent at that time. I heard that I have a job, and I will be safely divided into classes for several months. The wife said that these are all comforts, and the younger brother said that he finally grew up this time. When you are old, you will get married. Yes, it will soon be the moment when contradictions break out.

One day in April, my wife suddenly told me that my brother-in-law was getting married, and the woman's family asked to buy a house, but the down payment has not been paid yet ... Maybe she knew I wouldn't agree. This time, my docile wife used the trick of crying twice and hanging up three times!

She went on a hunger strike in front of me and said how hard she worked when she got married. I want to see the face of the Buddha, not the face of the monk. Threatened me with the child again, saying that if I helped her this time, I could get pregnant …

That's how hard it is to be a wife. At this time, I took the initiative to think of my mother. Only then did I understand that power has its advantages. If I inherited my mother's personality, it might not be so easy from the beginning.

Mom's solution to the problem is very simple, and she directly gives her wife two choices: First, live a quiet life, and don't talk about mom's family. Second, you can give 200,000 as divorce compensation. The word divorce, my wife really gave in again. Even my father-in-law said that the house would be solved by himself, and I only hope that we can live a good life …

I don't know why, the more they do this, the worse I feel, as if our marriage was a trap from the beginning. I can almost imagine a "vampire" family raising a gentle daughter. When she finally marries a family with fair financial resources, will this family be proud of "getting what they want" ...

Just thinking about it makes me sick. Now, although my wife and I are still in the same house, we are strangers to strange bedfellows.

I'm glad to let her know that she can't "catch" me, and the action of subsidizing her family is getting bigger and bigger, from three or five hundred to three or five thousand, moving to her house like an ant.

To make matters worse, as early as two days ago, I found that a box of CK underwear I bought last year was completely sold. When I scolded my wife, she said innocently, "I didn't see what you were wearing, so I gave it to my brother."

Haha, what else can I say? Frankly speaking, I really want a divorce. It's best to really eat it, but you should feel like eating flies. Although she is still my wife, I can no longer respect and love her.

Maybe three years, maybe two years, maybe tomorrow, this day is coming. The reader's story ends here. Let's not talk about it for a while. I want to hear your thoughts first. Tell me in the message area!