First, the structure of the opening remarks 1. Shoot the props available next to the target person-prepare the topic opening or impromptu opening to fight against the target person.
Words.
2. Time limit. After the opening remarks, give yourself a time limit. For example, "I have a little problem" and "I can only stay.
Sorry, I'm going to meet my friend soon. "Of course, although you say so, it doesn't mean that you must go after the prologue. such as
If you are right, no one will ask you why you haven't left after the opening remarks.
3. Answer why you ask this question. After she answers your question, she must say, "Let me ask you this."
The problem is because ... "That's the story. After the opening remarks, you must, you must! You need to add words. This is the basis of the opening remarks.
Three parts.
Look, it's not enough to just use the convention of preface. The essence of the opening remarks lies in the twelve-character mantra: listen.
The speaker is unintentional, the speaker is intentional, playing hard to get!
Second, the opening remarks need attention 1. Don't speak too fast so that others can understand.
2. Speak in a low voice, otherwise it is a sign of unconfidence.
3. The body should show the appearance of being ready to leave from time to time, and don't just stand still.
4. Time limits and words must be used.
When contacted by strangers, most people are thinking about two questions:
1. Why does he want to talk to me? (Answer by word)
2. When will he leave? (Walking through body language and time restrictions)
Only by making good use of the mentality of the person being accosted can we take the initiative in the process of accosting, otherwise, it is inevitable to get shot.
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Third, how to avoid anxiety One of the fundamental reasons why I am afraid to strike up a conversation is:
Everyone thinks this is very unreasonable behavior. If you think of a stranger suddenly accosting you and then asking for your phone number, is it strange and unreasonable? In other words, if we can rationalize this behavior subconsciously, our chat anxiety will disappear. It's better to find a wingman to act with when chatting up anxious brothers. One person's behavior is really unreasonable, but it is reasonable for many people to act together. So before you strike up a conversation, think that there are brothers fighting with us all over the country. You are not alone!
This is a way to relieve the anxiety of chatting up mentally.
In addition, a better way to show it is to warm up and take it at the beginning.
Before you go, you can ask a few girls for directions, only asking for directions is not a question mark, and asking more questions until you get into the state.
You can start taking it. You will find that after doing this, your hands will be smoother and your tension will be relieved.
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Fourth, the opening ceremony of each place.
self-study room
Beginners had better strike up a conversation from a fixed place, because in a fixed place, girls are not so defensive and fixed.
The study room in the workplace is undoubtedly a good choice, but the disadvantage is that the quality of girls in the study room is very low.
But it can be used as a place for beginners to practice. After all, it is too difficult to challenge the street from the beginning.
After the difficulties, slowly improve yourself.
There are probably several fixed routines in the study room:
(1). Borrow pens, paper and transparent glue (she can borrow anything on her desk anyway). This is the earliest and most primitive.
The chat-up method in study room has never been used by a brother, which is mainly caused by girls and themselves.
A buffer, paving the way for the important figures behind. The main operation method is to find out which study room has the most beautiful women.
A lot. After aiming at the target outside the door, see if there is any space next to or behind the target. There'd better be a vacancy. If not, go and find it.
Sit on the ground in the back row first, observe the situation around the target at any time, and walk forward with your bag as soon as you are free. Stay where you are and wait.
You can borrow it after that. You can find sympathy for girls after borrowing it.
Get to the point, for example, you have read a book on a girl's desk, or you are taking a class. In short, you just have nothing to say.
Talk every 5 to 10 minutes, and pay attention to the girls' reaction. If the girl's reaction is indifference, it's best to do so.
It's coming soon, so as not to affect others' study. If it reflects well, you can go deep into the topic.
Girls usually give them their numbers when they are packing up and ready to leave.
(2). Paper flow. You can write this on the note: classmate, I think your hair is very good. It seems that you are very
I know how to maintain it. I want to ask you some tips on hair care, and then write down the phone number. If a girl likes you, she will send you a message.
If not, talk to * * * on the same point. Note paper can be used with pen borrowing paper, and the effect is better.
(3). Direct opening. For the target girl, when the girl goes out to answer the phone or drink water, she walks next to the girl.
Just say, "classmate, I just saw you watching." . . Books, you are studying. . . Really? "Anyway, just chat. or
The interviewer said directly, "I just noticed you in the study room and thought you had a good temperament." Can you understand me? " As long as you look
Good affinity, usually just say a few words to get the number.
(4) Invite girls to show you around the campus. You can carry a bag and go to other schools for self-study on weekends, looking for that kind.
A school with a large number of girls. There are generally fewer girls in the study room on weekends. After selecting the target and finding the target,
Sit in the back and start:
"Classmate, are you from this school?"
"yes."
"I find the scenery in your school is very good. This is my first time here. "
"Really, which school are you from?"
"I am. . . Are you busy at school? "
"Not bad, what's the matter?"
"Oh, this is my first time to come to your school. I wonder if you can show me around? "
"Oh,. . . . . . . "
In fact, nothing is impossible as long as you have a strong mentality and don't appear obscene.
library
The operation method of the library is similar to that of the study room. If girls are found looking for books in the stacks and slowly approaching the target,
Read books near the target, pay attention to what books the girls are holding, and create the same topic with the girls through the books.
However, it's best to pay attention to whether girls come alone or with their boyfriends. If you meet her boyfriend, you can
Smile at your boyfriend, "Your girlfriend has a good eye", find a topic to talk to her boyfriend, and then leave.
Most beautiful women go to the library with boyfriends, which is a bit depressing.
canteen
In the canteen, it is best to find a single target, and it is not easy for two people to cut in. As for the starting point, it all starts with vegetables.
Have dinner and sit next to the girl. "Classmate, what kind of food are you eating here?" And "classmate, can I order here?" It is anyway.
There is nothing to talk about, just talk nonsense. You can pull it if you talk too much.
Campus kiosks, etc.
There are many pavilions and stools in the school, and there are also many girls who like reading and English.
We can usually start directly, "classmate, what are you studying?" You are a freshman, study hard. "
Some girls who study hard can talk about their study methods, life and ideals.
bookshop
Bookstore is also an easy place to talk with girls about borrowing books. The usual routine is to meet the target woman.
Students, close to the target girl, read books nearby, observe whether the girl comes alone, what books to read and see the girl.
The specific situation of life, then this kind of opening, there are several specific ways to open:
(1). "What are you reading? Are you too involved to look good? "
(2). "Look at your appearance, you love reading. Introduce some books to me. I haven't read any books recently. "
(3). "You also like reading this book. I have read this book several times, and every time I read it, I have new ideas. "
(4). "Ah, you like reading this kind of book, but you don't look like it."
Basically, it is cut through books and then brought into other topics. But don't talk too long. After all, bookstores read books.
The place, chat more than 10 minutes, you can receive the number. One of the more depressing things about bookstores is that they can only take a few girls.
That is a small piece of land. There are too many amusement facilities. Maybe the last girl saw you when you took another girl.
On the way to the campus
(1). Ask about the opening of the supermarket. First, you have to find out where the school supermarket is, and then at a certain distance from that supermarket.
Look around and see if there are any suitable targets. After seeing the target, you should make sure that she is heading for the supermarket. this
Can continue, the opening remarks are as follows:
"Classmate, where is the supermarket?"
"Oh, that's right. . . . . . . "
(pretending not to hear you clearly) "What you said is too abstract."
"Well, I'll take you there. Anyway, it is also on the road. "
Then we talked about the supermarket number along this gap: "I feel that you are quite good and make friends."
",take out your mobile phone, must be generous. Of course, there are supermarkets, libraries and canteens. It's not necessary.
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(2) The training course starts. This has been used several times, and it is basically the same as the routine in the supermarket. The specific dialogue is as follows:
"Classmate, are you from this school?"
"yes."
"I heard that you have a school. . . Do you know where the training class is? "
"Oh, probably. . . "
"Do you have time? I am not familiar with your school. Is it convenient to take one road? "
(3). Direct opening. Beautiful girls are usually chased, so it is normal to set up stalls on the road and shoot at school.
Shan, you will find that the more beautiful girls are, the easier they are to get along with. In their words, yes.
Just making friends. It is normal.
Be brave and go straight up: "hello, I just accidentally saw you." I think you have a lot of temperament. I can get to know you. "
Yao ",it's as simple as that. As long as you are generous and not obscene, you will usually get the number.
You'd better not strike up a conversation by asking the time, because this intention is too obvious, so go directly.
It's cool to ask for the number.
On the bus
Many people find it embarrassing to strike up a conversation on the bus. It's a shame that so many people, but think about it, they can't be right.
You are responsible, only you can be responsible for yourself, because you are worried about other people's eyes and lose your understanding of the girl you like.
Don't you think the opportunity is bad? Treat them as an audience and see how you perform. If there are few people in the car,
Many people are embarrassed to sit directly on the target. They think the intention is too obvious, so they have to find a way. How's it going?
In order to make her think that I didn't come to talk to her, I think this is too torture. Why bother? I just want to know you. I just want you to know this clearly, and you will.
Meaning, we make friends, don't want to, it doesn't matter, there are many beautiful women. So I saw the right one on the bus,
Come on, sit next to her. I usually ask her where to get off, and then some local customs in Liaocheng, hurry.
Get the number when you get off the bus.
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First of all, you should observe whether the person sitting next to the target is her friend, because there are many people in the square and many people don't know him.
People you know may sit together, so you should distinguish the situation first.
The general way to open it is to sit near the target and start making eye contact with the target. If the other person touches me.
Look, just smile and nod. If the target comes back, just go up and start chatting. If the goal is given
After a contemptuous look, my brother had better go, probably waiting for his boyfriend. Eye contact is very important when chatting up people.
When I touch your eyes, the chances of success will be much greater.
Restaurant or coffee shop
In a restaurant or coffee shop, I saw a table with a goal and an empty chair (movable chair) and asked, "Is anyone here?" target
Children usually say no (they think you just want to take an empty chair and go somewhere else; Then, all smiles sat down and said:
"My friend will arrive in a few minutes, and I will accompany you." Low risk, high return. They can't right away.
If you leave, you can't be driven away without courtesy. as long as
You can catch one of the women's interests in a minute or two (not necessarily the target's interest, but also her friend).
Friends), then you can blend in with their group.
bar
Precautions before: if a girl sits in a chair at the bar, observe which side her bag is placed, remember, from
Get close to the other side, or you'll probably get shot.
You: This position seems to be reserved for lonely singles (get close to her, don't do it yet).
Girl: What?
You: As you just saw, several guests in this position left by themselves, and the chair seems to be silent.
Silent curse
Girl: What, you want to break the curse for me?
You: (Sit down) Look carefully. This dress of yours has a different color.
Girl:. . .
You: Just now there was a girl with the same skirt as you (NEG, attracting attention with negative stimulation).
Girl: The same skirt?
You: But don't worry too much. The same clothes are more gorgeous on you (IOI, and then quickly turn to praise).
Girl: You are so funny.
You: (It's best to have a kino at this time, and then you can take it to the booth)
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In the final analysis, the street is because there are the most beautiful women on the street, so the street must be conquered. According to the goal
Whether to move it to divide it.
Fixed target:
When you see a target in front of you, and the other person has not moved obviously for the time being (such as waiting for someone, or resting)
Sometimes, in line with nature and the 3-second rule, you can pretend to make a phone call first and then hang up when you reach the target.
Cut off the phone, eyes naturally contact with each other, began to speak:
"Hey, if this isn't Wen Wen (anyone can), it's a coincidence that you are here."
The other person will usually ask you "You have the wrong person" or "Huh?" Things like this are actually not heavy.
Yes, and then go on, "We had dinner in the red house yesterday. I'm in Class Three. What about you? "
I come from Class Five. You can't forget it after drinking it. . . "(in a teasing tone)
At this time, the other party will usually declare again that you have mistaken me for someone else, or if you are lucky, you will let IOI go. At this time, start yourself.
Play it.
Moving target:
At this time, it is best to move the target in front of you, and then move closer to ensure that the target hears what you say:
"Hello ~ ~"
Then the other person turns his head and you can say:
"I'm sorry, I thought you were my friend. Your backs are too much alike ~ ~ "
If you are confident enough in yourself, continue to stride forward after you finish, and then use the corner to see if the girls have come forward.
Catch up, if it's a bit, well, wait for the girls to come up and play freely ~ ~
Of course, if you don't go forward after saying this sentence, you can look at the girl's reaction after saying this sentence and then judge for yourself how to express it.
In short, as long as you associate with girls, as long as you are not a wretched man, the probability of getting the number is still quite high.
There is also a cliche that when chatting up girls, generally speaking, try not to look directly at them.
Target, 45 degrees on the side is the golden angle of the public, showing the feeling of being at arm's length, that is, the body should shake back and forth.
The extent of the swing, but don't act like RAP, be natural, and don't let the other side feel obviously enterprising.
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Five, the opening two rules
Three-second rule
The three-second rule is absolutely useful, but it can't be implemented invariably. You should at least observe whether the object is waiting for a boyfriend.
Friend, if her boyfriend comes during the ride, it will be more troublesome, so don't shoot blindly, just watch first.
Look at the environment, hehe, speaking of which, a brother told me that when he hooked up with a little girl, his mother.
Right next to it. He thinks it's her sister, the Khan. In this case, no matter how strong your communication level is, you can't get it.
Hands.
Blind shooting is an extreme, you can't do it. This is the other extreme. The three-second rule is to push yourself.
Act as soon as possible, and the conversation becomes stalking. You will find that the longer you follow the goal, the more you feel petty.
Once you feel petty when chatting up, it's over. So, if after observing the target,
If you find that you still can't get out, then give up your goal decisively, adjust your mentality, change your goal and then make a move.
90/ 10 rule
When talking with the target, your speech content should account for 90%, and the target only needs to provide 10%.
If you only provide 50% of the content as usual,
If the target does not fully provide the remaining 50%, then the conversation will enter the ice rink. Never silence, it is better to talk nonsense than nonsense.
Don't say strong. After a short opening, the reflection on the goal is nothing more than that, generally not too enthusiastic, we will
You must take the initiative to throw out the dialogue and infect the target with your own energy. Therefore, prepare a few more open-ended ones that you are good at.
Question, ask the goal first, the goal may be just a few words, and then your performance.
Try to use fewer questions in communication, such as "Where are you from" and "What's your major", which is not only boring,
And repeatedly remind the target that you are unfamiliar, you can change these questions into declarative sentences!
"I think you are from the north, and you can tell by your accent." "You should study art", so I feel that you will.
Much better, cold reading can also be useful at this time, such as "I feel that you are a person who is not good at dealing with people."
Dear people, I can see this because you always put your hand on your chest when you talk to me. These are very effective.
Chatting with men and women-opening remarks-to be continued