My roommate, a graduate student, has been in graduate school for 3 years. She doesn't ask her parents for money, but still works part-time by herself, giving her parents 1000 and her brother 1000 every month. Three years after graduation, I saved 60,000 yuan, bought a car and found a decent job. As a witness of her experience, I still have tears in my eyes when I think about it.
20 12 at the end of August, I reported to school with my luggage, because everyone was a graduate student, and they must have left by themselves without parents.
By the time I got to the dormitory, the other two should have arrived. There are four people in the dormitory, two of whom have made their beds, and the other two beds are empty. I looked and chose the one near the balcony, the one near the door or the empty one.
In the next two days, I met two other roommates, both very kind and lovely little sisters. We go out to buy office supplies and have dinner together. After dinner, we can't help wondering why the roommate who didn't go at last hasn't come yet.
It was not until the last night that my roommate hurriedly pushed the door open. There is no suitcase, only two big bags of luggage wrapped in sheets, and a big bucket full of miscellaneous daily necessities, with a simple ponytail and dark skin. In summer, he wears a pair of washed white jeans and a shirt. Because of sweat and dust, they are wrinkled and pulled together. His feet are white sneakers, but his shoelaces are almost black.
We all froze for a while, but I didn't expect the last roommate to be like this. After all, they are all in their twenties. Girls who don't wear makeup now are all dressed up beautifully.
But after all, they are all people who have seen the world. We reacted quickly and began to say hello to help her arrange things.
After chatting, I realized that she had just collected early rice and corn from her hometown in the countryside, picked peanuts and hurried to school.
She is a native of rural Henan province. Since ancient times, it has been the most difficult province for college entrance examination and postgraduate entrance examination, but she did well in the college entrance examination and was admitted to Zhengzhou University. After graduation, she had found a good job, but her parents were old and had a car accident, which delayed her admission. She simply prepared for the postgraduate entrance examination and went to the fields to help her parents do farm work.
During her more than a year at home, she arranged all the farm work at home. She not only finished a season of farm work, but also paid a local master to plant the land well before she hurried to school.
I looked at each other with two other roommates and didn't know what to tell her, because she was too different from us in appearance, and she was afraid of hurting her self-esteem. When she struggled, she simply washed her face, made the sheets, made the bed, and then lay down to sleep.
However, we all hang mosquito nets or broken flowers and bed curtains. Once closed, it is a private space of its own, and the clothes are exquisite dresses. The other two roommates also have a table of cosmetics, and there is a faint perfume in the dormitory. Her arrival seems to have broken some kind of atmosphere and balance.
The next day, we invited her to have dinner together. After dinner, we went back to the dormitory and passed by the supermarket. We asked her politely if she wanted to buy bed curtains, mosquito nets and other daily necessities. She paused, probably remembering the bed in the dormitory that didn't quite match us.
In the supermarket, she picked and chose, bought the cheapest plain mosquito net and bed curtain, and told us, "These are useless, just a decoration."
In the next three years, when we changed all kinds of new decorations, her bed and desktop hardly changed, and they were always clean and simple. There is hardly any cosmetics on the table, only a few skin care products and a lipstick that we tried our best to give her.
I remember the first dormitory dinner. Let's go to the nearby Wangfujing barbecue. My roommate always sits awkwardly and dares not move. She eats whatever we bring her. I remember when AA did it, everyone asked for 1 17. She whispered to us on the way that this was the most expensive meal she had eaten in years.
We also suddenly realized that it was a bit too much. Looking at her distressed appearance, we knew that she should not be able to afford such an expensive meal, and we suddenly felt a little embarrassed.
When we got back, we tacitly didn't ask her for AA money, so we invited her when we were ready to invite her.
She also didn't mention it for several days, when we all thought she had forgotten.
One night, we were all playing by ourselves in the dormitory, and she suddenly asked:
"Ah, the meal that day was 1 17. Should I give it to you? "
With that, she took out a book from the drawer, opened some odds and ends of money inside and looked at it. There is no red one hundred yuan. She counted one 50, two 20s, one 10 yuan and three 5 yuan's. Finally, she took out two coins from an iron box and handed them to her roommate.
Roommates silently collected money, and we didn't dare to talk more.
But since then, we have never eaten together except in the canteen and after graduation.
We didn't have much time together after we split up with our mentor. She even became a lone ranger, not eating with us or participating in activities with other students.
Sometimes when I meet her in the canteen, I often see that she simply cooked a rice of 30 cents, two vegetarian dishes of 1.5, and seaweed and egg soup provided free of charge in the canteen, with a meal of no more than 4 yuan.
Besides, she never goes to eat on the second floor of the canteen. The second floor is more self-help, with better environment, more windows and more food, but the price is more expensive than the first floor.
Once, a classmate quipped, "Isn't it boring to drink this clear laver and egg soup every day?"
She didn't feel embarrassed or embarrassed. She just smiled and said, "I feel good. I don't eat much. That's enough. "
Not only that, we have never seen her drink milk tea or buy fancy snacks on the roadside, and the dormitory has never bought many snacks like us. Every time we girls share snacks with each other in the dormitory, we will put some on her desk. When she goes back to see it, she will say thank you to us specially, and then she is embarrassed to say, it doesn't matter, she can not share it with her next time.
We all know that she meant no harm, so we stopped embarrassing her by giving her snacks on the table.
Later, in the last semester of the third year of research, everyone was busy looking for jobs and preparing for the autumn recruitment.
One day, she told us excitedly that she had passed the online application of a big factory and would have an interview next week.
We are all happy for her. One roommate said, then you should prepare well, and then remember to put on makeup, which is sure to have a better chance of winning.
She suddenly became very worried because she didn't have a dress for the interview. She is usually simple canvas shoes, sports shoes, short-sleeved sportswear, no makeup, definitely not.
We quickly comforted her because we knew that it would cost a lot of money to buy a whole set, so we told her that it didn't matter. We all had it and we could lend it to her.
Later, when the interview came, we got up early to help her make up and borrowed clothes and shoes to follow her.
I didn't expect her interview to be unsatisfactory. She didn't enter the second interview. When she came back, she said shyly:
"You wasted your good cosmetics and the interview was unsuccessful."
But two years ago, I attended her wedding with two other roommates. She showed us a photo, which was taken during her interview that day.
She said it was the first time she had used such expensive cosmetics, and it was also the first time she had put on such beautiful makeup. It was the first time she wore high heels and such a small suit. When she saw herself in the bathroom mirror, she couldn't believe that she could look so good.
Later, when the interview failed, she discovered that she was not really herself. She seems to have stuffed a poor soul into a gorgeous shell, and naturally feels unnatural and inappropriate everywhere.
However, she is too self-abased to tell us, because those clothes and cosmetics are daily for us, but they are extravagant hopes for her.
Not only that, after three years of postgraduate study, she is either studying in the library, doing scientific research in the laboratory, or on her way to a part-time job.
My roommate's family was not good. Originally, I had to work to help my family after graduating from college, but when I got to the postgraduate entrance examination, I naturally couldn't help my family, and my expenses were too high.
At the beginning of graduate school, she applied for a student loan with a maximum amount of 12000, which was enough to pay tuition and some miscellaneous expenses, plus a subsidy of several hundred yuan per month, which was enough to maintain her life.
However, she has always had a sense of crisis, thinking that she will have to repay the student loan after graduation. Her parents are old and waiting for them to support themselves, so she makes special efforts to make more money.
We remember that she worked as a waitress in a restaurant and handed out leaflets in the street. It took her one hour to get to 20 yuan 10.
Later, others said that they were all graduate students and they could exchange their knowledge for money. Roommates began to be tutors and went to training institutions to teach students.
Winter in the south is still very wet and cold. My roommate comes back with a cold at ten o'clock every night and falls asleep tired without rest. Moreover, every weekend, we lie in bed and sleep late. We watch movies and play games in the dormitory, but all our roommates go out.
My roommate is very busy, but he never falls behind in his studies. When I was a sophomore, my roommate got a first-class scholarship and sent a paper, which made a blockbuster in the college and attracted the attention of a boy.
I don't know if I really like it or want my roommate to help me with my project. One night, he invited several boys, holding flowers, blocking his roommate downstairs and confessing to her.
Surrounded by classmates coming and going, we all booed together, and we all sweated for our roommates. Unexpectedly, roommates walked over and bowed deeply to the boy, saying that they thanked him for his flowers and his love, and they didn't want to fall in love for the time being. Then they turned and left.
Later, it was rumored that her roommate was arrogant, but our dormitory was speculating that her roommate really didn't want to fall in love, and her mind was spent on studying and making money.
When we are short of money every month and ask for money from our family, our roommates have already started to give money to our family. At first, it was one or two hundred, and then it was a fixed one or two thousand.
She never complained to us, but every time she sent money home, she would call home and say that she was safe, and then she was happier in those days as if she had finished her task.
It was several years later. She told us that at that time, every time she paid her family, she would be in a good mood, and then rewarded herself with buying a small piece of cake at the cake shop outside the east gate of the school, eating it slowly and buying it at night, because it would be cheaper at night, with the processing price of 15.9 during the day and only 9.9 at night.
What really made me feel my roommate's fear of poverty and humility was when I worked part-time with her.
For a time, I spent a lot of money and quarreled with my family. I was short of money for a while, and it was good to see my roommate make money by herself, so I asked her to take me to work part-time.
In a provincial capital city like Changsha, there are many college students, so we have to do part-time jobs on our own. Fortunately, we are students in normal colleges, and we found a newly opened education and training institution as a part-time teacher under such a signboard.
My roommate teaches math, I teach Chinese, and 60 yuan lasts for one hour. For us, it is already a high salary. After calculation, we have classes for 8 hours every Saturday and Sunday. In 480 yuan, our monthly income is nearly 2,000 yuan. We all study hard and seriously. My roommate is more diligent than me and prepares lessons late in the dormitory every day.
One weekend, my roommate and I went to class as usual. During the ten-minute break, I'm going to go out with my roommate. Just arrived at the door of her classroom, I found the parents of the students and the person in charge of the training institution.
"You didn't take it. Yesterday, the child said that the wallet was in the bag. He only came to your class and disappeared as soon as he got home. It must be you. "
Parents are very loud, and they have been clamoring for roommates to steal the wallet that students put in their schoolbags on the first day after class. There are hundreds of dollars in the wallet.
"I didn't take his wallet. I didn't even touch his stuff. I left after class. "
My roommate argued fiercely and blushed almost to tears. When she saw me in the past, she looked for help.
I hurried over and said it couldn't have been stolen by my roommate. We went back together yesterday. She is not in the habit of carrying a backpack and has nothing in her hand. I have been with her for the past two days, which can testify.
But parents don't believe it. They looked at us contemptuously and muttered:
"A look, it is not rich children. Who knows if it's hidden? I thought the class was ok, but I didn't expect it to be bad. I can't even move my eyes when I see money. Take it out as soon as possible, or I will call the police. "
Roommate a listen to the alarm, tears suddenly came out, trembling voice said:
"I really didn't take it. I don't believe you go to my school to find it. Go where I prepare my lessons. "
The teacher of the training institution didn't say anything, because it was a newly-opened training institution, and there was no camera in it. It seems to be from parents' side, too.
Parents said they would take out their mobile phones, and roommates were in a hurry. They rushed up and took their parents' hands and said:
"Please don't call the police. I will kneel for you. Do not call the police. I will compensate you for your loss. "
As soon as my parents heard that they wanted to pay back the money, they stopped calling the police. They just said that the arrears of class fees were not settled, and they also asked roommates to lose money quickly.
Just as we were in a dilemma, another part-time teacher came running with a student's wallet and said that he had found it.
It turned out that the students themselves took their wallets to the front desk the day before to buy drinks, chatted with their classmates while drinking, and left their wallets there. When he got home, his parents were strong, forcing him to ask where his wallet went. He can't remember clearly himself, so he said that he saw his roommate the day before yesterday, and maybe his roommate took it away.
Part-time teacher, also a student, believes in the roommate's character and takes the initiative to find his wallet when he is embarrassed.
The parents of the students took the wallet, smiled, said an embarrassing sentence, took out 200 yuan from the wallet, saying it was tuition for their roommates, and turned around and took the children away.
That night, on the way back to school, my roommate didn't say a word, just looked out of the window. I can feel her crying silently. Such a thing is a great blow to anyone with self-esteem. I know that any comfort is powerless and pale. I can only look at her silence.
The next day, the teacher of the training institution called to ask if we wanted to go to class again, and we could arrange other students for our roommates.
I thought my roommate was so wronged and insulted that he would definitely not go. When I was about to refuse, my roommate said to the teacher, OK, I'll go on Saturday.
I was shocked. Although framed and not trusted, she chose to continue and then make money. Is this another kind of inferiority complex?
I suddenly admire my roommate more. If there were all kinds of sympathy before, at that moment, I felt the tenacity and forbearance in my roommate's bones.
In the summer of 20 15, when we graduated, our roommate invited us to dinner for the first time. The three of us tacitly chose to go to the snack bar near the school, but my roommate took us to a remote barbecue shop.
The three of us didn't order food that day, but our roommates ordered a lot, and the whole menu was about to be ordered.
Later, we ate and drank beer, and the atmosphere was very high. My roommate raised a glass to thank us for our concern and tolerance in the past three years, saying that she saw it in her eyes and kept it in her heart.
It was the first time that we watched her drink and order a lot of dishes so generously, and it was also the first time that we saw her expose her vulnerability and inferiority.
She prone on the table, ZuiYan blurred to tell the truth:
"In fact, in the past three years, I really envy you. I envy you that you can wear beautiful clothes and paint beautiful makeup to go shopping. You can lie in the dormitory for a day without worrying about anything. Can fall in love, can travel, can buy food and drink. You don't have to consider so many prices. You can drink milk tea every once in a while. In fact, you like sweets, but they are too expensive to eat. You can only buy bargains when the cake shop is about to close. But I can't buy the taste I like. I want to eat chocolate, but I have never bought it. Every time I finally eat strawberries. Although strawberries don't like to eat, they are not bad. After all, strawberries are quite expensive ... "
We were almost crying when we listened, and we were just about to persuade her to stop. We all understand that we didn't abandon her.
But she continued:
"You know, in fact, when I was an undergraduate, I also liked a boy. He is excellent, excellent, but my family doesn't like me, thinks I am poor, and is afraid that I will drag him down. He found a beautiful girl who is completely different from me. what can I do? I can only make money, make a lot of money, treat my parents and send my brother to school. I also want to fall in love, but I can't talk about it and look down on myself. I must save money, save a lot of money. I tell you, I saved sixty thousand, and I will continue to make money ... "
The meal was so heavy that we finally dragged our roommate who was completely drunk back to the dormitory. After settling her down, we agreed not to mention anyone and pretended not to know anything.
Unexpectedly, when my roommate woke up the next day, she took the initiative to talk to us about what happened after getting drunk the night before, saying that she was very happy and finally told us what she had been worried about for three years. Although she is still poor, she still feels a little inferior, but she doesn't have to hide anything from us. She can be friends with us without any bad feelings.
We laughed together, hugged her, and then went downstairs to get graduation photo. That day, we saw our roommate show a real smile.
After graduation, my roommate went to an internet technology company to do research and development, and she didn't need to attend big occasions. She still dresses casually, but she hasn't relaxed at work, becoming more and more confident and confident.
Later, in many chats, we talked about the time of graduate school. She felt several times that the decision she made when she was doing farm work at home was the most correct. She has always believed that hard work can change her destiny and she can gradually stop feeling inferior. As long as she has firm confidence, she can succeed.
Two years ago, my roommate sent us a wedding invitation. The other party is a foreigner who is also working hard outside. They struggled together to buy a house and a car in Changsha. They also sponsored several children in remote mountainous areas together and sent them some living materials and tuition fees on time.
We were invited to dinner and looked at the elegant and moving girl with light makeup and smiling under the stage. She has long lost her cowardice and simplicity when she was studying.
From my roommate, I saw a person's perseverance and tenacity. Although poverty can make a person feel powerless and inferior, it is not a lifetime after all.
We can't choose our birth and family, and we can't control natural and man-made disasters, but we can still grow up in adversity in the face of a terrible life. Although I can't get rid of poverty and inferiority in a short time, as long as I work hard enough and persist enough, there will be a rainbow one day. Whenever there is a gap, I will believe that there is light shining in.
Two or three years before my son was born, I was the poorest. I am so poor that my daughter and I spend 400 yuan a month on living expenses, and this 400 yuan also includes one month 100 yuan for our daughter to go to kindergarten.
At that time, 400 100 yuan was set aside every month. Qian Yue asked her daughter for food, and the rest of 300 yuan was our mother's living expenses. I dare not buy meat, because vegetables are all grown in my own garden. Sometimes children are really greedy. I go back to my parents' house and my mother buys meat for my children.
Once, my daughter's school had to pay a few days late in the factory. I couldn't even get 100, so I borrowed it from my neighbor 100. People ask me if 100 is enough. I said that's enough. I'll pay him back when I get paid. Actually, I paid my daughter's living expenses with the borrowed 100 yuan, and I still have 10 yuan in my hand. Late pay 10 days ...
When people are poor, I can avoid people who lend us money, but I have no money to meet them. Talking to people feels like a dwarf. I really can't hide. I greet people far away and always tell them that I am saving money and return it to him immediately.
People especially want to make money when they are poor, but the more you think about money, the farther away money is from you. I just returned the money I had saved to others. I just wanted to relax, and my child was in hospital. Faced with the hospitalization fee of 2000 yuan, I can't come up with it. I have no choice but to ask my parents for help. Just selling grain, my mother gave me 3000 yuan. It was really hard when I took the money. I have a family, but I still have my mother worried about me.
Those years were the most tiring and embarrassing time for me to live. Busy all day, but have to borrow money to live. I dare not tell my friends about me. A friend once said that wearing silver bracelets is popular now. Let's buy one. I went with my friends with my only 500 yuan money. I wanted to go there and find a reason not to buy it, but I couldn't stand the persuasion of my friends and the deception of the shopping guide. I bought a silver bracelet for 300 yuan. When you wear a silver bracelet, you don't feel bitter, and you have something to put on a facade. This silver bracelet is the only jewelry I have bought so far.
Although life is better now than in previous years, I dare not buy anything casually. I'm afraid of being poor, and I don't want to borrow money from others in my life.
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