When external pressure appears, the most common reaction of most people is that their minds are in a mess, they automatically think the worst, overestimate the negative effects of things, underestimate their abilities, and finally let themselves fall into pessimism and anxiety.
The correct way to deal with external pressure is:
1. External pressure appears: mostly negative events, things you don't want to see.
2. Start self-awareness immediately: take three deep breaths, counting from 1 to 10, practicing calligraphy 1 word, body scanning, etc. To calm your mood.
3. Start thinking: sort out the ins and outs of things from the perspective of onlookers, God or a third party, and write down the process without any subjective judgment.
4. Observe your reaction from three dimensions: first, emotionally, such as disappointment, fear, anger, guilt, etc. Second, physically, such as pain, palpitation, acid swelling, fatigue and so on. ; The third is action, such as crying, mania, lethargy, inefficiency and so on. Write down the self-observation situation of these three dimensions truthfully.
5. Reaction result: Look at things more comprehensively and rationally, produce more flexible ideas and free reactions, see more possibilities, write down all your ideas, and finally get the best choice from them.
The above five steps to deal with stress are to prevent thinking from entering the automatic navigation mode and avoid adverse reactions in chaos. Through mindfulness and writing, the pace of thinking will slow down, the brain will become calm and rational, we can see the whole picture, see more possibilities, and then have the freedom to choose.