There is a very realistic question in Zhihu: Have you ever blamed you for your parents not buying you a house or a car?

The subject said that there are two children in his family, a primary school and a kindergarten. They dare not say that they have given their children the best conditions, but at least education accounts for one-third of their monthly expenses. Various training courses, interest classes, etc. The author wants to do his best to train and educate his children, and then let them struggle on their own.

Their family's income has also reached the bottleneck period, and the 200-square-meter house is still repaying the loan, which also leads to their little savings every month.

Their present standard of living is quite comfortable. Although you can't afford luxury goods, there is absolutely no problem with basic life. They can also travel occasionally. Children can study at will or ask for private education. Children can grow up in a relatively rich family environment without letting them experience poverty.

However, she faces a dilemma: if they maintain relatively comfortable living conditions, they may not be able to buy a house and a car for their children in the future, or they may not be able to give them a considerable dowry to get married. After all, there are two sons in their family. If you really want to buy a house or a car, you must have two copies of everything.

One of her worries: I'm afraid that when my children grow up, I will blame her for not saving money for them and buying them a house and a car?

After reading it, I just want to say to her: "If you have done so much and the children are still blaming you, then you are a failed parent. It is because you have given too much to two children, and they have so many demands and complaints about you. You have given your children a better standard of living, much better than many families, and it is good to meet your living conditions. If you try your best, why should your children blame you? "

What good living conditions, a house of 200 square meters, many families can't afford it.

If even you have this concern, what do you do to many parents who rent houses? What if many families are crowded into a house of less than 60 square meters?

There is no need to worry, just love your children as much as possible and treat them well. The rest is up to them.

02

Like the subject, I have two children. Four months ago, we just moved to our new home, from outside Xiamen Island to inside Xiamen Island.

After moving, I posted a post on the little red book about buying a house and replacing it. Then some netizens asked me: Why don't I buy old and young? I have the ability to send my children to a better local school. Why should I do it myself and be happy? Wait, you will regret it later, saying that you don't want to share the school district. Do you know how much influence the school district has on children? A good school atmosphere plays a key role in your children.

We changed houses and avoided the old and poor schools on the island. I thought about it before buying a house. With our ability, it is better to change to an old and poor school, but the problem is that we only have enough money to buy one. house How can a family of four live if they buy an old one and a young one? Moreover, the down payment of Xian Yi, old and young, is generally not low, and it needs renovation, and the loan is not good.

After careful consideration, my husband and I unanimously decided that the main purpose of this house change is to improve housing conditions and choose a similar school district. As long as the school is better than we used to be on the island

We live in Xiamen, and everyone knows that the housing prices in Xiamen are very high. At first, we lived in Xiang 'an, mainly for the children to go to school and wanted to transfer to the island. In addition, it will be much more convenient to live on the island, without being stuck in the tunnel every day, and the life happiness index will be improved a lot. Moreover, we moved from Xiang 'an District to Siming District, which is a great progress in our school. We are doing our best to be kind to our children.

As for the school district, my opinion is that the best school district is not as good as the junior high school district. Whether a child learns these materials ultimately depends on him. My husband and I provided them with good living conditions.

After moving to the island, our living space has been greatly improved. We used to live in a two-bedroom suite outside the island, with an area of only 60 square meters. Now we live in a big three-bedroom suite with an internal area of 100 square meter. I have a small study of my own. This house is much bigger, more comfortable and less crowded than before.

The house is big, and the two children run around the house, so the activity space is much bigger.

I once asked my son: Do you like your old home or your present home?

He said that he likes his present home better because it is bigger and more beautiful than before, and he has his own room.

I have been thinking, as parents, what can we give our children? My idea is to give them the best love. My husband and I have a good relationship and the same heart. We have been working hard for this small family. We try our best to be kind to them and give them a very loving family.

That's enough. No amount of material conditions can compare with a happy family.

What can parents give their children? Give them love, give them a platform, and they will fight for the rest themselves.