What are these books talking about? Is the author's point of view correct? In what way did he prove his point?

What role do they play in our life, work and interpersonal relationship? What theme is it about? We have studied the theory. How should we apply it? Even through deliberate practice to change their old ideas?

I think these are all things we should think about before opening a book. We are often attracted by one sentence, so we open a book at random and then close it again. But I still don't remember what it said.

So these 50 books, I hope it will focus more on our mental growth, know what we don't know, and make us more self-aware and enlightened when facing life.

1, control anger

About the author:

Albert ellis is a famous psychologist beyond Freud, the father of rational emotional behavior therapy and the founder of cognitive behavior therapy. In the United States and Canada, he is recognized as the second among the top ten influential applied psychologists (carl rogers first, Freud third).

Ellis founded Rational Emotional Behavioral Therapy (REBT), which had a great influence on the field of counseling and therapy, and laid the foundation for the development of modern cognitive behavioral therapy. This therapy is widely used, practical and quick. It is the most commonly used method for psychological counselors in China, and it is one of the compulsory therapies for the national qualification examination for psychological counselors in China.

Ellis received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Columbia University and devoted himself to psychotherapy for more than 60 years. He cured more than 65,438+05,000 people suffering from various emotions, and founded the albert ellis Institute of Rational Emotional Behavioral Therapy in new york.

Main contents:

Dr. albert ellis and Dr. Raymond Chip Taft provide a reliable method to help you deal with emotional problems effectively, and tell you how to use their skills to have a systematic understanding of the root and essence of anger. By doing some easy-to-master exercises, readers can learn to live relatively peacefully in a difficult and unfair society. Using rational emotional behavior therapy can reduce anger reaction and help to challenge and eliminate anger. Anger will hinder your success and happiness in family life, work or other aspects.

2. The road that few people take? Four volumes

Perhaps in our generation, there is no book that has brought such a great impact on our hearts and spirits as The Road Few People Walk. In North America alone, it sold more than 7 million copies and was translated into more than 23 languages. It stopped on the best-seller list in The New York Times for nearly 20 years. This is a great miracle in the history of publishing. There is no doubt that this book has created an unprecedented sales record and has been enduring ever since. This book reveals the significance of ubiquitous communication and understanding, transcends the limitations of the times, helps us explore the essence of love, and leads us to live a brand-new, quiet and rich life; It helps us learn to love and be independent; It teaches us to be more capable and understanding parents. In the final analysis, it tells us how to find our true self. As the book says at the beginning, life is full of hardships. Mr Scott. Parker makes us more clear that life is a hard journey and the journey of mental maturity is quite long. However, this does not scare us. On the contrary, it leads us through a series of difficult and even painful changes, and finally reaches a higher level of self-awareness.

"The Road Few People Walk 2: Face the Lies Bravely" Everyone has two wolves in his heart, one is good and the other is evil. If The Road Few People Walk: A Journey to Maturity tells us how to cultivate the good wolf in our hearts, then this book is analyzing the evil wolf in our hearts. To cultivate a good wolf requires honesty, while evil wolves are particularly afraid of honesty and especially like lies. Why do wolves like lies? Because the essence of lies is to cover up the truth. In essence, people cover up the truth because they are unwilling to bear the pain of facing and solving problems. In the process of avoiding problems and pains, people will turn right from wrong, confuse black with white, and become crazy and evil. Therefore, evil is produced by lies that reverse right and wrong. Just like the word "life"-alive. In turn, it becomes "evil"-evil. To face a lie bravely means to face the truth bravely, not to avoid your own problems, to bear the pain you should bear, and to bear the responsibility you should bear. Only in this way can our hearts grow and our minds mature.

If The Road Less Taken 3: Dialogue with Heart says that the road less taken is about the journey of mental maturity, and the road less taken 2 is about bravely facing lies, then the road less taken 3 is about the intricacies of life. Everyone must go his own way. There are no self-help manuals, formulas and ready-made answers in life. One person's right path may be wrong for another. This book will tell you that life is complicated, and we should rejoice in the magic and richness of life, not be depressed by the changes in life. What is life? Life is everything that happens outside your plan. Therefore, we should be grateful for change!

The road few people take 4: spiritual growth in the age of anxiety. This is an age of anxiety, and everything seems uncertain and confusing. When people are anxious and helpless, scott parker is like a vicissitudes guide, telling us how to survive in uncertainty, how to choose between contradictions and how to gain spiritual growth through anxiety.

This book was written by scott parker at the age of 60. He shattered people's illusions with rare courage in the world and reached the truth of life. This truth is so true and shocking, but his sincerity and wisdom can arouse our inner strength, go forward bravely and stride towards an uncertain future. ?

Step 3 break free

Eiko Yamashita

Born in Tokyo, he graduated from the Literature Department of Waseda University in Japan. He began to learn yoga in college. Through yoga, he thoroughly understood the practice philosophy of "breaking the line, leaving the line, leaving the line". Later, he devoted himself to advocating a new sorting technology based on this concept, which anyone can practice in person. By sorting out the daily home environment, he changed his consciousness, got rid of material desires and obsessions, and lived a free life.

Since 2000, as a consultant of sundries management, he has held lectures on breaking up families all over Japan, attracting interviews from NHK, TBS, Tokyo TV, Daily News, Nihon Keizai Shimbun and other major media, making the lectures on breaking up families a hot topic in society, setting off a craze for breaking up families among the whole people, and the number of students attending the lectures is increasing day by day.

In addition to this book, the author also wrote some bestsellers, such as Out of My Heart, Freedom, Welcome to the World Out of My Life and Lose Weight Out of My Life.

4. Give play to your talent.

Open your life instructions and live a unique life. This book specifically describes 36 meridians in the human figure. The channels in the human figure represent different talents and are the kinetic energy of everyone's life. Every talent has specific and feasible usage and suggestions. Only by finding and confirming your own channel can you give full play to your strengths in life and truly live high. Thirty-six channels, each with its representative celebrities. These celebrities are professional, adventurous, curious or maverick ... If you have the same channels, you will definitely resonate with the corresponding celebrities. These people, whether or not they have achieved the success of secular recognition, have given full play to the characteristics of their own channels. Their lives, like the examples of using channels, show us how talented live high is. Through their life, they will help you better understand your own channel and use the magical equipment that God has given you.

5. "Insensitivity"

The so-called "insensitivity" is a life attitude and wisdom. Compared with excitement, sensitivity and tenacity, people with a sense of shock are more likely to stand in a competitive modern society.

The author of this paper expounds the rationality and importance of passivity from the aspects of health, love, marriage, workplace and interpersonal relationship, which can be said to be a unique interpretation of life and has brand-new guidance and enlightenment for modern people.

Recommended language

Junichi Watanabe's classic inspirational masterpiece.

Be insensitive to what is in front of you. Don't take everything to heart.

Insensitivity is a kind of talent, a kind of power that can make people's talent blossom and carry forward.

Because of Junichi Watanabe, there is another word in the world called "insensitive". "Plain sensibility" can be interpreted as "plain strength", that is, facing the setbacks and pains in life calmly.

The book was used by Junichiro Koizumi, former Japanese Prime Minister, to advise Abe's cabinet, which aroused the enthusiastic pursuit of the Japanese people and became a super bestseller with sales exceeding one million copies.

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Junichi Watanabe (1933-20 14)

A famous Japanese literary master and national writer. 1933 was born in Hokkaido. I graduated from Sapporo Medical University and worked as an orthopedic surgeon. Later, I gave up medicine and became a professional writer. He won the Naoki Literature Award for the novel Light and Shadow and the Yoshikawa Eiji Literature Award for The Faraway Sunset. In 2003, he was awarded the "Purple Ribbon Award" by the Japanese government. 20 14 On April 30th, Junichi Watanabe died of cancer at the age of 80.

He published 130 works in his life, including Paradise Lost. The nondescript sex described in it has aroused great repercussions, and it has been made into TV series and movies one after another, which has set off a "paradise lost" fever in Japan. Other masterpieces include Make-up, Red Castle with Love and Sex as the Theme, The Last Autobiography, My Forever Home and so on.

As the number one Japanese friend to China selected by netizens, Junichi Watanabe severely criticized the Japanese government for refusing to reflect on the war of aggression, showing the historical consciousness and sense of responsibility that a great writer should have.

6. Emotional attachment

This is a great and humanized exploration journey, and it is an annotation to the development of human life. This book is like a symphony, with different themes appearing, dissipating, reappearing, unfolding and reappearing. I have read this book twice and it has changed me.

Shi Daila Akron

Director, London Center for Infant Mental Health

This is a great success. The book contains a large number of interviews, psychological tests, and video materials of mother-infant interaction. The information of each participant is well organized and presented in such a clear way that this book reads like a pleasant novel.

Clechilan

Professor, University of Paris School of Medicine

If you are a parent or a prospective parent, reading the book Emotional Attachment can make you treat yourself well in the next 30 years, and also make your child treat you and himself well. What we need is the three-dimensional knowledge that this book gives us: what, why and how to do it.

Zeng Qifeng

Deputy Chief Physician of Sino-German Psychological Hospital

For the height and depth of parenting, you can only see your children if you see yourself; Moreover, it needs a clear long-term "vision", focusing on the future and reserving room for growth. Whether it is to guide children's growth or to learn the skills of research and intervention, this book conveys the vital secret to us: love and patient gaze.

Wu Heming

Associate Professor, Institute of Applied Psychology, China Geo University (Wuhan)

From the emotional attachment, we have heard many children's voices, and also seen many parents' successes and mistakes in the process of raising their children. As long as we read it carefully, I believe this book will provide a good reference for parents and colleagues engaged in clinical psychological work.

7. The game of love

The world-famous "marriage pope" John Goldman. Professor of Psychology, University of Washington, USA, Director of Seattle Institute of Interpersonal Relations, engaged in family relations research for 40 years, an expert in the field of marriage and interpersonal relations, and was praised as the "marriage pope" by the media. An outstanding psychologist in the field of interpersonal relationship. Four times, he was awarded the Scientific Researcher Medal of the American Institute of Mental Health, the Outstanding Scientific Researcher Medal of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, the Outstanding Contribution Award of the American Association of Court Therapy, and the Chairman Medal of the Family Psychology Branch of the American Psychological Association. Famous psychologists like Rogers and Jung. In 2007, influential American Journal of Psychotherapy Network and American Psychologist named guttman as one of the 10 influential psychotherapists in the eyes of American psychotherapists in the last quarter of the 20th century, just like carl rogers and carl jung.