1 Reading is the key
When I was a child, I remember that my mother read to me every day and often took me to the library. I clearly remember that when I first read to my mother, she had tears in her eyes.
I have been reading to my daughter Amy since the day she was born, because babies also like the rhythmic sound of reading.
My daughter Amy is an active child and can't sit down for a while. But when she was two and a half years old, she would bring 20 books to her bed every night. Tears welled up in my eyes when she was able to repeat what I told her about Brown Bear.
2. Don't criticize children in public.
No matter what I do wrong, my stepmother won't embarrass me in front of others. Whether it's a stranger, family or friends. She always talks about me when we come home or pulls me aside according to the situation.
3. Parents are consistent
When I was a child, I never had a chance to be friendly with one parent and oppose the other. Mom and dad are always together. They always support each other.
For example, the two of them decide which party I should attend or how late I can stay out.
Once I didn't want to finish ballet class, they discussed it together and said I had to finish this semester's class before deciding. The consistency of their views makes me feel that their decision is very reasonable.
4. Learn to be content
My mother often reminds me: "There will always be people who are better than you and people who are worse than you. Thank you for what you have now. "
I work in the special care department of a hospital, and all the nursing objects are very sick babies, so I am especially happy for the health of my four sons. This view also makes people more friendly.
Step 5 use magic touch
My mother always touches my arms, hands, shoulders and head when chatting with me or asking her questions. Sometimes she combs the bangs on my forehead, and sometimes she puts my hair behind my ears.
These behaviors make us children feel cherished. Now I have two children, and I have to touch them when they pass by me.
6. Don't complain
I know my parents worked harder than anyone else, bringing up our four daughters and sending us to college, but I never heard them say that they were tired or asked us to repay them.
Mom is not in good health now, but she never blames others for her health problems.
7. Stick to what you think is good.
As a mother, she usually knows what is best for her children, and she will stick to it even if it is out of date.
For example, my mother breast-fed three children, which was not fashionable at that time. People say that breast milk is not nutritious enough, but she is unmoved. I agree with her attitude. She insists on doing what she thinks is best.
8. Stop commenting.
My mother often says, "Don't comment on how other mothers raise their children, lest you finally find that you may not be as good as them."
What is suitable for one family may not be suitable for another. Because children's needs and personalities are different, parents' requirements and habits are also different. As long as there is no child abuse and indifference, don't chatter about other people's parenting styles.
9. Dating every child
Although my mother is very busy to raise our five children, she always spends some time alone with each of us.
I have three children now, and like my mother, I will find time to be alone with each of them-whether it's waiting for fast food in restaurants or at the beginning of movies such as cinemas.
It seems to be really useful: every child of mine regards me as her friend and mother, and even my 19-year-old son has no difficulty in hugging me.
10, don't always sit by the TV.
My mother limits the time I watch TV and the types of TV programs. She often said that childhood is precious and beautiful, don't just sit in front of that "square box". Therefore, my childhood includes not only TV cartoons, but also outdoor breakfast, climbing green hills, playing and chatting.
Now that I am a mother, I have inherited this kind of parenting style that I seldom watch TV and videos. Therefore, my children and I have more time to read, sing, cook, chat and go to the library.
Our home is quiet, too, and there is no noisy TV. My children are forced to develop their imagination by reading books and newspapers.
1 1, and fully enjoy the pleasure of drinking tea for two people.
The role of drinking tea with children is still quite great. In the past, when I came home from school, my mother always made a pot of tea and then we talked about it. Our time together was not disturbed by TV. In this quiet moment, I am happy to tell any thoughts, opinions and even little secrets in my heart.
Whether she gives me advice or just tells me, it can calm me down slowly. We still keep it this way: whenever I see my mother a little sad, I will make a pot of hot tea.
Now whenever my twin daughters talk to me about their problems, they will also have a good pot of tea with us.
12, * * * Enjoy the happiness of family and share the joys and sorrows with * * *
I grew up on a dairy farm, and my family all worked together. We shared each other's happiness and pain. My parents told us that family is a castle, and the longer we spend together, the closer our ties will be.
This is especially important when my brother died in a car accident 10 years ago, when we comforted each other.
13, I'm glad the children are different.
My mother doesn't try to be consistent with us, and now I try to do better for my children. My mother believes that every child has unique abilities and interests, and it is absolutely impossible to demand children uniformly. We should let them be themselves and help them develop their potential.
No matter what path they choose. Most importantly, remember that equality does not mean giving your children exactly the same thing, but giving each child what she needs.