I wonder if everyone's life is like this. When I was young, I complained that it took too long. Why did I have to wait so long to smoke a box of longevity cigarettes? At the age when I started smoking my first cigarette, I suddenly felt that time was like tobacco, and it didn't burn, or was it particularly easy for our generation to have such a feeling of being burned in a hurry?
Every day when I open my eyes, the traffic jam sign on the ring road has turned red. Sit in front of the computer and keep refreshing. I've always wanted to read a book and read a watercress recommendation. Not to mention there are so many places to visit. I used to ride my bike to those fixed booths every day to find CDs. Now everything you want is downloaded from the task bar of the electric donkey day and night, but after downloading, it is just put in a folder forever, and there is no time to open it again. What happened? Since when can the world unfold before us in such a detailed and unreserved way? Chen Shanni sang, "Too many young people die prematurely in back-dated magazines." Yes, it seems that the magazine I bought today will expire tomorrow.
Why are we so afraid of being left out or left out? Probably because there was a voice in my ear when I was a child. Hurry up, it's too late, or you will be eliminated if you don't advance. How fast will this drive belt change? Can you press the pause button?
If you don't like reading, remember that I taught such a student when I was teaching in a cram school. He is unruly and out of control. When his mother brought him to class, she said with a runny nose and tears that he was smart but didn't study hard and wasted his life. I hope the teacher can teach him well.
He was silent in the classroom; Come to class and leave after class; Don't answer questions, don't do your homework, but don't make any noise. There's an exam. Just hand in a blank sheet of paper and leave. It's quite free and easy.
One day, he handed in another blank sheet of paper and wanted to leave. I was furious and asked him to stay. When all the students went back, I talked to him alone in the classroom. I said all the good things to persuade him to understand his parents' pains. He still silently lowered his head, indisputable and unresponsive. At this moment, I couldn't help crying. Seeing my tears, he took out a tissue and handed it to me. I looked up and saw that his eyes were red, and then whispered, "I don't like studying!" " "Say that finish, he got up and left, also don't back.
The next day, he never came to class again. Several years have passed, and I have forgotten this student.
Not long ago, I drove past a car wash shop and thought it was time to wash the car. Parked the car, inquired about the price, then visited the nearby shops, estimated the time of car washing, and then went back to the car washing shop to pick up the car. When I saw my car, I was taken aback, because the whole car was smooth, just like a new car. This is not only a car wash, but also a mirror beauty project. I can't help secretly getting angry. In order to do business, this car wash shop will do whatever it takes to create a fact and force me to be a sucker! The mirror beauty fee is precious!
When I was angry and wanted to talk to my boss, I saw the boss coming over with a big smile on his face and said shyly, "Teacher! Do you still recognize me? " Before he introduced himself, I shook my head. It turns out that he is the student who doesn't like reading.
He said that on that day, after I left him for a long talk, he was deeply moved and realized that he should not waste his life any more, but he really didn't like reading. After returning home, he explained openly to his parents, and finally persuaded them to give up their plans to continue their studies and go to the garage as an apprentice to learn technology.
After learning to repair cars, he went to learn to wash cars. After several years of training, he finally opened a car wash shop. He said it was hard to wash the car, but it was finally his own business. He treats every car as his own child, treats it with care and cleans it carefully; Plus, he can repair cars, and there are some minor problems with cars, so he will adjust them at will; If it can't be repaired, he will also tell the customer to send it to the manufacturer for repair as soon as possible.
Because he is sincere and kind to others, the fee is reasonable, there are extra services, and the business is good. He won't pick it up without an appointment.
He said that I would bring the car in and he would come and refuse. When he saw it was me, he not only accepted it, but also personally gave my car a full set of beauty treatments. He said that I couldn't help crying that year, which made him feel love and care and prompted him to stand up again from self-abandonment. For many years, he has been trying to express his gratitude, but he has never had a chance. Today, I finally got a "clean gift" in return!
I accepted his kindness with great pleasure. What moved me most was not that he cleaned my car, but that he was willing to make progress.
"Being a top scholar" doesn't mean that only reading can make you successful, but it can't be used as an excuse to neglect your lessons and waste your life. If you really don't like reading, you should plan your future as soon as possible. Isn't his achievement the best revelation?
If life bothers you, skip it, just like skipping classes at school. Nowadays, many people are unwilling to endure repeated hard life and busy work, and begin to yearn for the comfort of living in a different place. Of course, it is not so easy to really "skip" once in the face of punching machines and heavy work, but no matter there are thousands of sources of stress, we only have one life. Throw away all the baggage and do something you like, although it's useless. It is really necessary to live entirely for yourself. It can make the soul keep up with the pause and overcome anxiety with fun. Welcome the new realm of life with a peaceful mind. "I'm Xiao Qiang, don't have time to eat ..."
In 1970s, the famous director antonioni filmed a documentary "China", which inadvertently preserved the calm side of China people in that era for China. If the Italian director comes back today, he will find that China is no longer calm, instead, he is eager to pursue fame and gain. Almost all China people are busy, busy making money, busy getting promoted, busy taking the postgraduate entrance examination ... busy, which has become the biggest similarity of China people, just like the song sung in the second half of 20 1 1 "I am Xiao Qiang, and I have no time to eat; I'm Wang Jiwei, and I don't have time to travel long distances. I'm Zhang Hui, and I don't have time to take a nap. I am Zhu Yaqing, and I have no time to lose weight. I'm Galen, and I don't have time to go home to see grandma. I am Gao Jing, and I have no time to have children. I'm Jordan. I don't have time to sleep ... I suddenly want to skip work and steal a little laziness in a daze. I really don't have time, no time ... "
How Busy Are People in China & gt Magazine, China Comprehensive Well-off Research Center and Tsinghua University Media Research Laboratory conducted a nationwide survey on "Middle Class Leisure Satisfaction". The survey found that overtime is the living condition of many professionals. Among the respondents, only 23.7% work "40 hours or less" every week. 76.32% of them work more than 40 hours a week, of which 28.8% work more than 50 hours a week, and 1 1.8% of the respondents work more than 60 hours a week. Lang Xianping once calculated an account: China's per capita working hours are the highest in the world, reaching 2200 hours a year, while the United States is 16 10 hour, Japan is 1758 hour, and the Netherlands is only 1389 hour, which is the lowest in the world.
Because I'm busy. We sacrificed our hobbies, the interest of life, and the joy of walking with our wives and children in the sunset, and life became bleak, just as Li Xiang, a small white-collar worker in Lin Yihua's play (Life and Survival of Gorgeous Office Workers), lamented, "Black Monday. Tuesday is also black, Wednesday is the darkest, Thursday is a little gray, Friday, Saturday and Sunday (body dancing wildly) ... Alas, it is Black Monday again! " Many people are as tired of this cycle of tired life as Li Xiang, but what have we done for ourselves besides enduring and complaining? "I have to work hard before I can spend money and take a vacation." Yang Jianping, 3 1 year-old, works in an advertising company in Shenzhen with a monthly income of 9000 yuan. Because I'm in a hurry to make plans for a big client. Together with more than 20 other colleagues, he didn't take a day off for three months in a row and often worked overtime until midnight 12. Because "the boss promised us that as long as we win this customer, the bonus will be big and the holiday will be long!" " Yang Jianping said, "Every time I have to work overtime until I collapse, I just need to imagine the blue coastline and golden beaches of Maldives, so that my mood can be slightly balanced. ".
More likely to get out of inertia. Many people, like Yang Jianping, are tired of this tiresome life cycle. Have you ever thought about skipping the existing life? Live somewhere else? Most people will say no, that's a luxury. However, many people don't know that it was not Kundera who first said "live elsewhere", but the French poet Rambo. Rambo skipped his original life three times, and finally he went all the way to Paris, Belgium and London. Although all the way down and out, it was during this period that the poet's poetry reached its climax and wrote the famous "A Season in Hell". This story leaves us with a possibility: only when a person walks out of the inertia of life and doesn't think in repetition will you master more possibilities.
Before deciding to skip the present life, Zhiping was a reporter for a media in Guangzhou. A serious illness nearly killed him last year. After recovering from his illness, he resolutely decided to leave his job 10 years of media and yearn for Europe for many years. Because he suddenly realized the preciousness of life, he wanted to find a quiet place to experience and feel the mystery of life alone. But Europe is quiet enough and has a strong cultural atmosphere. It is a place where people can slow down and think about life. In fact, when he decided to submit his resignation report, Chi Ping still had an inexplicable sense of tension. After all, after living in this city for 10 years, every friend and every familiar place will become an invisible line, pulling him. But when the resignation letter was really handed in, Chi Ping felt much more comfortable. Chi Ping said that it was a relief, and at the same time it combined with a hope for future life, which was very beautiful. Chi Ping's plan is to learn the language well first, and then pass the language test, or continue studying, or find a job in the local area. "Maybe in a few years, after I feel that such a lifestyle needs to change, I will repeat today's' skip life' move, or go to another country, or return to China." In Zhiping's view, only in this way can we truly grasp the limited life. "From now on. I want to live for myself. Otherwise, I will waste my dream in' hesitation'. "
Going to Europe like Zhiping is not suitable for most people. For most people, it is not an easy task to skip the original life in the face of too fierce social competition and too much pressure in life. But if we can't skip our original life, we can at least learn to skip meetings and classes, get ourselves out of the normal track, do something "deviant" and relax, and maybe there will be unexpected gains, such as the famous Jobs. During 1990, during a speech at Stanford University, Jobs noticed Lauren listening in the front row. That night, a meeting was waiting for Jobs, who was devoted to his career. "Joe Wang" recalled: "I was in the parking lot and my car keys were plugged in. I asked myself,' If this is the last day of my life, would I like to attend a business meeting or spend it with this woman?' I ran across the parking lot and asked her if she would like to have dinner with me. She said yes. We walked into the car together and have been holding hands ever since. "
Success is important, but what about happiness? For today's China people, success is king, and defeat is also a curse. No one wants to be a loser in life, because each of us is afraid of losing our position. The most severe punishment for people is to throw them into the busy street and nobody cares. Skipping life is poetic and full of longing. Although it is within reach, it is not so easy to "skip" occasionally. We collect maps and travel bags, but we have never really left our city. Because as American professor Lester Thoreau said in his "Creating Wealth with Knowledge", "Wealth is the ultimate criterion for capitalism to measure success. Those who have a lot of wealth are important and worthy of attention. They deserve respect and demand obedience from others. Wealth has always been very important in the arrangement of aristocratic order, but it is increasingly becoming the only standard to measure personal value. If you want to prove yourself, you must take part in this game. This is a first-class game. If you don't play there. Then you are doomed to be second class. "
Yes, success is the most striking topic in this era, and it is almost the only topic. We are always surrounded by stories of successful people. The media, the dining table, and the awards ceremony are all clamoring for success! To succeed! But when everyone is running on the road to success, the result may be collapse. Because the demand for wealth expands to the limit, the demand for personality may compromise to almost extinction. Some media have done a survey and found that the happiness of China people is declining as they get richer. Few people question this conclusion. Because everyone feels the same way, there are more and more money and materials, but the sense of insecurity and frustration is increasing.
Success is for happiness. If success can't bring happiness, success is no longer a noun to show off in vanity fair, but a verb to plan life. In layman's terms, happiness is to put aside utilitarianism and do something you like, although it is useless. Maybe this is the road to redemption. For example, do something that has nothing to do with promotion, getting rich and becoming famous. Do something related to your emotions and spirit, and do something that others think is "deviant".
In fact, some people have been doing useful things all their lives, but it turns out that they are worthless all their lives: some people have been doing "useless" things all their lives, but what they leave behind will be of infinite use to future generations. Wang, the "first player in Beijing", was born in a famous family, but he was addicted to all kinds of insect carving skills, such as flying pigeons, raising oysters, driving eagles, running dogs, making love and cooking, and playing with culture and interest. The reason why the Dutch prince awarded him the highest honor of Prince Klaus Award in 2003 was that without him, a part of China culture would have been buried for a long time.
Therefore, living in a steel forest has 1,001 wishes. It is best to have 100 1 recipes, and each recipe will make your life more leisurely. Just like the comedian Van Toni said, the highest state of urban idlers is to observe things from stillness, to see busy people in leisure places, to make themselves have a taste beyond dust, to steal time when they are busy, to be quiet when they are sleepy, to live slowly, to feel gentle, and not to let the tall buildings and drunken fans in the city blindfold themselves. This is the foundation for modern people to settle down.
We just want green water, green mountains and fish, which is what I want; Bear's paw is what I want, too If you had to choose between fish and bear's paw, what would you choose? Residents of Madl town in the Swiss Alps have recently encountered a headache. However, what they face is not the choice between fish and bear's paw, but the choice between gold and green hills.
Maadyr is a mountain city in the Maadyr Valley of the Swiss Alps, where the springs are clear and the pine forests are lush, and the residents live a quiet pastoral life, just like the Swiss version of Xanadu. In the 1960s, there were 850 people in the town, and now there are 450 residents, most of whom are elderly people. Although the scenery here is picturesque, it is difficult to develop tourism without cable cars and skiing facilities. Young people are under great employment pressure and unwilling to stay here, so they have rushed to other places to develop. In recent years, the population of this town has been decreasing, and the mayor is worried about it. Maybe in a few years, this town will be in danger of extinction.
In 20 12, a gold mining company in Canada discovered that there are abundant gold resources here, which broke the quiet life of the local people. This is the first gold mine in Switzerland, with a reserve of 800,000 ounces (about 23,000 kilograms) and a market value of 654.38+0.2 billion US dollars. Gold mine contains gold10g per ton of ore, which is also a unique rich mine for the whole European continent and has a good development prospect.
In order to persuade the townspeople to support the gold mine development, the gold mine development company offered favorable development conditions: during the mining period of 10, each resident will receive a royalty of 400,000 Swiss francs (about 2.74 million yuan). The local government is also very enthusiastic about the development of gold mines. They believe that gold mining can reverse the long-term population decline in the town, bring vitality to the dead town, increase local taxes and attract foreign investment, which is a rare win-win project.
Faced with the generous commitment of gold mining companies and the government's enthusiasm for development, local residents poured cold water on them and resolutely said "no". They are worried that gold mining will turn the picturesque valley into the second Klondike. Klondike, referred to by residents, is a district of Yukon Territory in northwest Canada, which is located in the east of Alaska 19. A gold rush broke out here, resulting in scarred surface, destroyed vegetation and deteriorated environment.
The local people argued about the development of gold mines for a long time, but no one could convince anyone. This decision can only be made by referendum. Results 90 people supported the development and 180 people firmly opposed it. In the face of gold and green mountains and green waters, the townspeople finally rejected the temptation of gold, preferring to stay in Jinshan and choose green mountains and green waters to live a quiet life.
Fish, what I want; Bear's paw is what I want You can't have your cake and eat it. You can't have your cake and eat it. Gold is what I want; Green mountains and green waters are what I want. I choose between gold and green mountains and green waters. Residents of Maadyr town in Swiss Alps firmly said: We only want green mountains and green waters, which is much more important than gold.
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Zaimei
No matter how good.
This is just the past.
therefore
I'd rather stay in the past
Even if the past was naive.
Too many regrets.
I still want to stay in the past.
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There was you.
We are still a group of children.
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I really want to go back to that childish era.
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There will be rubber bands
There will be a snowball fight.
There will be shuttlecock
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How are you?
I miss you.
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Back to the original beauty ...
Love, positive energy love, is both magical and great energy in this world! Without it, I believe the world will be in trouble soon. . . .
Some people say that love is a sentimental thing, which is always unpredictable; It is precisely because of this that the world's evaluation of it is enduring. Personally, I think that as long as it is used well, it will definitely bring a steady stream of positive energy to your work, life and emotions!
I. Work
1, hobby: Take work as a pleasure, and you will find it so relaxing and enjoyable.
2, love innovation: the unchanging working state will make you more and more boring, bring some new ideas to your work, and multiply your work enthusiasm.
3, love to share: resources * * * enjoy, * * * progress; This is the best way to improve the quality of work.
4, love challenge: love to fight will win. Only by constantly stimulating your inner fighting spirit can you make breakthroughs again and again in your work; I am not afraid that others will surpass me, but I am afraid that I will not work hard. There are no forever strong (weak), only fearless challengers.
Second, life.
1, love music: I like listening to music, nothing special. As long as I meet one of the three requirements, I will listen (the lyrics are well written, the melody is beautiful, and the singer's sound quality is beautiful); When I was a child, I learned to play the harmonica. When I grew up, I bought an electronic piano. Take it out and press it when you are free. I feel pretty good (I watched a TV program some time ago, and a friend in it said: Many people learn to practice the piano in order to get a grade, but she didn't. Her level has reached 10, but she didn't get the level, because practicing piano is a heartfelt love, not a face honor). I agree with her.
2, love literature: I like reading books since I was a child, but I don't like worship; I like writing, and I prefer to create according to my own ideas, not for fame, nor for writing to make money, but because I like the beautiful feeling brought by the creative process.
3, love cooking: soup, sugar water, cooking, learning everything, no teacher's guidance, cooking entirely by your own feelings, you can also enjoy it!
4, love to travel: the body has not moved, the heart is far away. Everyone will have the impulse and desire to travel, and I am no exception; I was lucky enough to go to several places last year, and I felt good. I hope I can have a chance to go out for a walk, relax and see the outside world every year.
5. Love to appreciate: The world's eight great arts-painting, architecture, music, photography (movies), sculpture, dance, drama and literature, all the beautiful things in the world can bring people a comfortable feeling, and I like all the beautiful things.
Third, emotion.
1. Greetings of love: Whether it is a lover, a relative or a friend, a warm greeting will add a good mood to the other person's heart. Come to Changshu often, remember to contact often!
2, love to laugh: smile is the most beautiful expression in the world; Truth, goodness and beauty, all beauty, are contained in that sweet smile.
3, love surprise: a small surprise, bring a little romance to the ordinary life; I will inadvertently give my husband a deep hug, send a small gift to my parents, take my children out to buy delicious snacks, and let them feel my love.
Postscript: I wrote some articles because I found that many friends around me often encounter all kinds of troubles in work, life and emotion. In fact, everyone will experience many bumps and unpleasantness on the road of life. I hope my friends can read more articles when they are in a bad mood, find more beautiful things around them and care more about others. When you do the above, I believe the world is beautiful.
Love, positive energy!