David, No 1998 Cadillac Silver Award; 1999 American library association's annual book recommendation; 1998 new york Times Picture Book of the Year.
Selected as One Hundred Picture Books Everyone Should Know by New York Public Library (revised edition); 200 1 The 7th Japan Picture Book Award for Readers.
It can be said that this book has won many awards and is also a frequent visitor in many picture books. However, after reading it once, I feel that this book has great problems in parenting.
Whether a book is worth reading depends on the value it conveys to people. We analyze it from two levels: adults and children.
First of all, from an adult's point of view,
Parents may cause * * * to say "our children are too naughty" and "I say no every day", so they like this book and think that the educational method of this book is the same as their own, so they will continue to say "no" to their children in the future.
However, there is a big problem with this "no" parenting style. If you always refuse children's various behaviors, children will become tied behind their backs and dare not try.
Therefore, "no" itself is not a correct parenting method. We should not restrict children's various behaviors, but should guide children's behaviors to be released at the right time and place, which is in line with children's physical and mental development.
For example, many behaviors in picture books, such as David playing with water, making food into a villain, playing baseball and so on. We like to play with water and find a place to play with it.
Like to make food into a villain, prepare a piece of plasticine and pinch it; You can't play baseball at home, you can play it outdoors.
Second, from the child's point of view
Children will pay attention to their behavior, so they will see David's various behaviors and imitate them deliberately, but they will not see their mother's various disappointments. Of course, under the deliberate emphasis of parents, children will realize that these behaviors are unacceptable and may avoid making such mistakes in the future.
At the same time, this book will also convey the value to children: listen to mom and dad, be good, don't do what mom and dad don't let you do, and be a good boy. The last page of the picture book also says, "Good child, mother loves you."
Then the question is coming:
1. Will the child become a good baby?
Many parents may like good children and think that children are good and easy to discipline. But in the long run, the better children are, the easier it is, because they will depend on you when they grow up. Without your own ideas, you will only become a giant baby when you grow up, and everything needs your parents to worry about.
2. Do mothers love their children or are they good children?
This conflicts with our educational concept of "unconditional love for children". No matter what the child does, parents should love him and let the child release himself, instead of being an apple polisher, deliberately suppressing himself and distorting his behavior, so as to gain the love of his parents.