Everyone will go through puberty, and everyone will go through a rebellious period. At that time, we were too impulsive and felt that we had grown up and didn't need too much care from our parents. Parents always thought that we were children who didn't grow up, and sometimes they loved us too much and were afraid of being bullied and suffering. It should be three years ago, when I was in the second day of junior high school, I made an appointment with my classmates to go to the library to do my homework tomorrow. I won't be home until 2 pm to 9 pm, and dinner will be settled outside. After talking to my parents, I didn't expect my mother to say that I had to be home before 8 o'clock, otherwise I wouldn't be allowed to go out. I couldn't hold back at that time and quarreled with my mother. I said loudly, "I'm not going to play. Can't I study?" It won't be too late at 9: 30 ... "My mother shouted that studying at home was the same, and she wouldn't let me go. In a rage, I didn't listen to my mother the next day. I didn't go home until after nine o'clock. When I got home, I accepted my mother's scolding. Without saying anything, I closed the door, played loud music and danced freely in the room. In the next few days, my mother and I didn't talk much. I overheard her and her father say that I was asked to come back before 8 o'clock because I didn't understand that the outside world was complicated and I was afraid of being taken away or having an accident ... I also think what my mother said is reasonable. The next day, I told my mother that I had done something wrong, and I would come back early next time. Please ask my mother to be more considerate. My mother promised me, and I promised my mother. That's it. How easy it is to put yourself in the other's shoes to solve the problem.
Empathy is the secret to solve the generation gap and contradictions, which is not only applicable to disputes with parents, but also to contradictions between friends. Therefore, in real life, when there is a contradiction, don't lose your temper, don't blush, don't quarrel, but calm down and look at it from the other side's point of view. Maybe we will change our attitude towards this matter and solve the contradiction slowly.
With the growth of age, there is a generation gap between us and our parents in adolescence. In the rebellious period of adolescence, this generation gap is getting bigger and deeper. At this time, parents and we need to learn to empathize, so as to narrow the generation gap and let the gap slowly disappear. ...
Everyone will go through puberty, and everyone will go through a rebellious period. At that time, we were too impulsive and felt that we had grown up and didn't need too much care from our parents. Parents always thought that we were children who didn't grow up, and sometimes they loved us too much and were afraid of being bullied and suffering. It should be three years ago, when I was in the second day of junior high school, I made an appointment with my classmates to go to the library to do my homework tomorrow. I won't be home until 2 pm to 9 pm, and dinner will be settled outside. After talking to my parents, I didn't expect my mother to say that I had to be home before 8 o'clock, otherwise I wouldn't be allowed to go out. I couldn't hold back at that time and quarreled with my mother. I said loudly, "I'm not going to play. Can't I study?" It won't be too late at 9: 30 ... "My mother shouted that studying at home was the same, and she wouldn't let me go. In a rage, I didn't listen to my mother the next day. I didn't go home until after nine o'clock. When I got home, I accepted my mother's scolding. Without saying anything, I closed the door, played loud music and danced freely in the room. In the next few days, my mother and I didn't talk much. I overheard her and her father say that I was asked to come back before 8 o'clock because I didn't understand that the outside world was complicated and I was afraid of being taken away or having an accident ... I also think what my mother said is reasonable. The next day, I told my mother that I had done something wrong, and I would come back early next time. Please ask my mother to be more considerate. My mother promised me, and I promised my mother. That's it. How easy it is to put yourself in the other's shoes to solve the problem.
Empathy is the secret to solve the generation gap and contradictions, which is not only applicable to disputes with parents, but also to contradictions between friends. Therefore, in real life, when there is a contradiction, don't lose your temper, don't blush, don't quarrel, but calm down and look at it from the other side's point of view. Maybe we will change our attitude towards this matter and solve the contradiction slowly.
Chapter two: 800-word junior high school composition empathy
In this beautiful world, I am used to seeing flowers bloom and fall, and the tide rises and falls. There are always some people who come and go in your life and play in childhood; Quarrel with parents when I was young; When I grow up, I will be on and off with my lover. However, will we suddenly realize and put ourselves in others' shoes someday in the future?
In adolescence, we always have a doubt: why don't parents understand me? I grew up in a single-parent family. Single-parent families are very common in today's society. I have lived with my mother for a long time, and I have long been used to a family where there are only two of us. Besides, my mother doesn't have any intimate friends, so the family is a little deserted.
Until that day, my mother took a tall, fat man with a pair of high glasses and watched this learned-looking man go home. I looked up and down for a long time before I said "hello, uncle" politely, but I was still very alert. Later, when my mother cooked dinner, the man sat next to me carefully. After a while, he began to ask me like a household registration, where to go to school, where is my hometown ... I was a little impatient and even more unwilling to answer him, so I just found a reason to leave. I went into the kitchen and asked my mother about the man. My mother smiled and said to me, "He is an old friend of mine. When I met him today, I invited him to come home to catch up. " After listening to my mother, I didn't think much, and then I ate snacks and watched TV.
For several days in a row, the man went home for something, euphemistically called "catching up." Until my 12 birthday, my mother suddenly said to me, "that uncle will be your father in the future, and we are going to get the certificate." I stared at my mother with wide eyes and hesitated for a while, as if I had a thousand words to say. Finally, I can only shout loudly: "I don't allow you to be with him, I don't accept him!" " "Then he rushed out of the house and came to the corner where no one found him, crying. God seems to know how I feel at the moment. It's already dark. It's raining and the night wind blows gently. Looking at the lights, I don't know where to go. I can't understand why my mother did this. I only know that the arrival of that man will only make me unhappy, and he will take away all my mother's love for me!
I don't remember how long I stayed there. My neighbor's sister found me. I described the story to her. My sister smiled and said to me, "You should learn to put yourself in others' shoes. You see, my father has been gone for so many years, and my mother has been supporting this family. She let you live such a good life, and she will be tired. She also wants someone to lean on. Therefore, you must learn to think of your mother. No matter what happens, be flexible and don't blindly think about your feelings. " I talked with my sister for a long time. I couldn't help running home in tears. I looked at the delicious food on the dining table and my mother's tearful face. I hugged my mother and said, "Mom, I was wrong. Sorry, I didn't take care of your feelings. " I don't know how many times I have apologized, and I don't know how many times I have regretted it. It turned out that I was so ignorant that I never thought how much my mother had paid for me, but what did I do for my mother? Cooking? Cleaning the house? Suddenly, tears flooded all I had to say. ...
There is always a moment when you learn to grow. When you learn to think from another angle, you will find that things are often not as superficial as I thought. After this incident, I found that my mother and I were closer.
It turns out that empathy is only in an instant.
Chapter III: Empathy of 800-word junior high school composition
People should understand and trust each other and learn to put themselves in others' shoes, which is the basis of interpersonal communication-mutual tolerance and understanding, and think from others' perspective. I used to be self-willed and arrogant, and I never thought of others. Maybe so. I'm unpopular and no one wants to make friends with me. However, after that, I finally learned to put myself in others' shoes.
I remember it was a dark day and I was playing at my grandmother's house. "Goo goo ..." "Oh, I'm hungry, Grandma, help me cook a bowl of jiaozi!" I said to my grandmother who was sweeping the floor. "Oh, great!" Grandma smiled and walked slowly into the kitchen. Soon, she brought out a bowl of jiaozi. "Oh, what are you doing out? Put it on the table inside! " I don't know why, but a sudden anger rose in my heart. I went into the house and sat down. Grandma came in, holding a bowl in one hand and hugging rheumatism's waist in the other. "Then I went out." Grandma's tone is still so peaceful. "Go, go!" I said impatiently. Picked up a bowl and began to eat. "Hey-so light!" I went into the kitchen to put salt, but I couldn't find it for a long time. "Grandma-where is the salt?" I shouted at the door. After a while, nothing happened. I shouted again, "Grandma-come in!" "Come out." For a long time, grandma replied like this. "Hum, don't even give me salt, what do you mean!" I couldn't hold back my anger and went upstairs angrily. "Leave her alone!" That's what I thought, and I didn't go down to eat jiaozi.
It's time for dinner. I went downstairs and grandma was cooking. She ignored me as if she were possessed. After a while, I heard her whisper, "I have long heard that I have a bad temper, but I didn't expect it to be so bad!" " I've always loved her so much that I'm really blind. "I said indignantly," you have a good temper, and you don't want to help me put some salt! """I can't hear because of my bad hearing." Grandma argued with me, too. "I told you to come in, why didn't you come in!" The angrier I get. "I just finished sweeping the floor and want to help you cook jiaozi. It's not that you don't know that my waist is not good, of course I have to rest. " Grandma expressed her difficulties. After listening to it, my heart was full of waves: according to grandma, the whole thing was my fault, and grandma wouldn't lie. I have always been arrogant and savage. No wonder my friends left me one by one. Many things are actually irreparable mistakes caused by my willfulness, aren't they?
I suddenly realized that what I really want to change is that I never think of others! I said to my grandmother apologetically, "Grandma, I was wrong. Please forgive me! " "Grandma playfully scraped my nose and smiled.
Chapter four: 800-word junior high school composition empathy
Sometimes when I have conflicts with my friends, I always feel that my behavior is impeccable and perfect, while others are sorry for themselves. All the mistakes are caused by others, not by themselves. But when I calmed down and changed my position, from a friend's point of view, I found that I also had many mistakes. Maybe when there are conflicts or other things, we should really put ourselves in other's shoes and consider the whole thing from other people's perspective. ...
Representative figures of Jian 'an literature: Cao Cao, Cao Pi and Cao Zhi. Cao Zhi and Cao Pi, two brothers, fought in secret for the inheritance of their respective hegemony. Cao Zhi wrote in a rage: "Boil beans and burn beans, thinking it is juice." Bitter burns in the kettle, and beans cry in the kettle. We are born from the same root, so why rush to speculate with each other? "Cao Zhi compares brothers and sisters with beans and glutinous rice, and intrigues. Hey! I don't think this can be attributed to him and xelloss. Who didn't want to have some power at that time, but Cao Zhi and Cao Pi lived in the powerful state of Wei, and their father was the most powerful warlord at that time. Some unpleasant things between Cao Zhi and Cao Pi have already reached Cao Cao's ears, and Cao Cao became suspicious. With some rumors, he had doubts about Cao Zhi and Cao Pi brothers to see who wanted to seize the inheritance. Cao Pi was very clever and saw some of the secrets: on the one hand, he showed his talent in front of his father, on the other hand, he tried his best to crowd out Cao Zhi and make him master the inheritance right alone.
In my opinion, Cao Pi is a bit stupid. The ancients said that "brothers fight, fathers and sons fight". He just didn't think long-term for his own interests and didn't look at the problem from the overall situation. What would it be like if he considered that these two men would inherit Cao Cao's thought? I don't think Sima Shi will seize Cao Shi's inheritance so easily. As for Cao Zhi, although he was very angry about these things, he did not look at the problem from Cao Pi's point of view. If one of them dares to sacrifice immediate interests and make long-term plans. Then Cao Cao's hegemony would not fall into other people's hands so quickly.
I like the anti-seven-step poem written by Mr. Guo Moruo in imitation of the seven-step poem best: when the beans are cooked, they burn, when they are cooked, they are gray, when they are cooked, they are precious, and the gray is used to fertilize the fields. If you don't live for the same root, why give up on yourself? Cao Zhi uses "bean glutinous rice" to describe brotherhood, while Mr. Guo Moruo thinks that if you stand on the side of beans, "you can feel that glutinous rice has not gone too far", but if you stand on the side of glutinous rice, "it is also a manifestation of sacrifice".
Empathy is a time-saving and labor-saving method. Why don't we try? Trust me, it really works.
Chapter 5: Empathy of 800-word junior high school composition
In life, we may have long been accustomed to taking the opinions of "experts", "masters" and "academic authorities" as our own opinions. It is true that the words of experts and masters are correct and incisive in many cases. But after all, human beings, not gods, can't be right about everything. It can even be said that the mistakes made by experts and masters are more difficult to correct than those made by ordinary people. Because under the aura, few people have the courage to question their views.
So, what should we do? The method is simple: learn to think independently. As early as hundreds of years ago, the thinker Kant once said, "Dare to use your own reason." Only with the consciousness of distinguishing right from wrong independently can we not be blinded by the aura of masters and experts and fall into blind obedience.
If a person loses the ability to think independently, he will fall into blind obedience; If a society loses the ability to think independently, it will fall into darkness and stagnation. This was the case in China during the Ming and Qing Dynasties. In the Ming and Qing Dynasties, "Zhong Ni will never be born, and it will last forever." An absurd lie prevails in the world, and people regard the traditional Confucian creed as divine law. Even if they thought about it, it was blasphemous and outrageous in the eyes of people at that time, not to mention questioning, denying and innovating. Thus, in this worship, China sank deeper and deeper in the mire of stagnation, until the bonfire of opium cut the dead sky over the land of China like lightning. China gradually stepped out of superstition and blind obedience and embarked on the road of progress again. Therefore, independent thinking is an indispensable factor for progress and success. Blindly believing in blind obedience will inevitably lead to failure.
On the contrary, if a person integrates independent thinking into his own blood, then he will gain strong vitality and motivation to move forward, constantly correct his mistakes, correct his direction, and finally reach his destination successfully. It is precisely because there is no blind obedience authority that Yuan Longping can get rid of the influence of the "rice fallacy" that has enveloped the world's plant world for half a century, thus creating a brand-new era of rice hybrid breeding, and letting human beings see the hope of completely getting rid of hunger and realizing food and clothing. Therefore, independent thinking is the only way to succeed.
It takes courage to think independently. If a person does not have enough courage, he can't look up at the sky of truth with his own eyes under the pressure of authority. Thinking independently requires wisdom. If a person doesn't have enough wisdom, he can't see the essence through appearances, so he won't see the real truth, but a grotesque and distorted picture. These two kinds of people, the former is a coward and a lamb, will only encourage wrong tendencies. The latter is a madman, a savage who broke into the jewelry store. He only knows negation and destruction, but he doesn't know how to put forward the correct proposition. These two kinds of people don't know how to think independently. The so-called real independent thinking refers to putting forward new opinions through your own thinking while respecting the correct opinions of the authority. It is dialectical negation in essence, so independent thinking is the road to development, the road to truth and the only way to success!
The new era needs new voices. Let's learn to think independently and contribute to the progress of the times. The new era needs new people with new ideas. Let's learn to think independently and build a road to success for ourselves!
Chapter 6: 800-word junior high school composition empathy
Everything in life cannot be fair to everyone and beneficial to everyone, which requires us to learn to put ourselves in others' shoes.
The same thing, after empathy, may become completely different. Just like the two small wooden barrels in the material, they are all doing the same thing, but their views, moods, understandings and feelings are different. This is the magic of empathy. The second small barrel only empathizes, so it has a different understanding from other barrels. In my life, I really feel the importance of empathy.
It was an upgrade exam. I don't remember what grade I was in, but I remember that I was the third from the bottom of my class. I didn't think it was a big deal at first, but I was angry when I came home and showed my report card to my mother. I was beaten and cried out of breath, so I naturally hated my mother. From then on, I vowed never to talk to my mother again and never to pay attention to my mother again. For the next few days, I really didn't talk to my mother again. I lie in bed reading extra-curricular books all day and stay at home. One day, my father came into my room and I was reading a book. He came and sat by my bed, gently picked up the book and put it on the bedside table. He smiled and said to me, "Daughter, don't blame mom. Your mother is for your own good. " She wants you to have a bright future. If this goes on, how can we get into a good high school and a good university in the future? Your mother and I are busy working all day to earn money to support our family, so you have to live up to expectations ... "Dad is still talking, but I have fallen into deep thinking. Maybe I'm really wrong. I think my mother is really good for me, for I can have a good future. Thought of here, full of guilt. ...
Finally, I apologized to my mother and promised her to study as hard as I could. This is an example of how I solve problems through empathy!
So, please let us learn to put ourselves in others' shoes!