00 1 If you fail in something, you will find it yourself.
If there is something wrong with your interpersonal relationship, you have to change it from yourself. Although sometimes the problem may be on both sides, it is almost impossible to change others. You can only start from yourself.
It's really hard to do, but it's true. We have no choice but to do so. Friends who quarrel with you can only be repaired if you show goodwill first. If you just expect the other person to realize his mistake and bow to you, usually two people in this case will eventually become passers-by.
Different people have different ways to deal with your own problems.
Some people treat it objectively and rationally like generals; Some people are like ostriches. When danger comes, they bury their heads in the sand and turn a blind eye.
The latter person is like the patient in this funny case.
After the doctor examines the patient's X-ray, he tells the other person that his condition is serious and he needs surgery. Generally, there are two kinds of patients, one is that he has no complaints and fully cooperates with the treatment, and the other is that he is emotional and asks the doctor if he can modify the X-ray.
What kind of person are you?
Between you and me, the latter kind of people are usually late and hopeless.
Before you think about what to say, control your emotions.
Many communication books on the market are teaching people how to speak and telling you what to say under what circumstances. These methods usually don't work, because when people say the wrong thing, their minds are often full of emotions. In this case, people are unlikely to consider what they say.
For example, when people are dissatisfied with you, the first reaction of the brain is to go back, which is human instinct.
In this case, just do one thing, shift your attention from the other person to observe your emotions, look at your heart, what happens after hearing what others say, try to jump out of the emotional whirlpool provoked by other people's words, and then think about what to say.
If you can't do these two steps at the same time, then ask yourself first and take the first step.
Making friends begins with "disturbing" others.
1736, Franklin was nominated as secretary of the National Assembly. Among them, a powerful person opposed the nomination. He doesn't like Franklin.
Franklin wanted to change this situation when he heard about it.
He found a rare book in this man's library, so he wrote to him, saying that he really wanted to borrow this book and hoped that it would be approved.
The gentleman didn't expect that he and Franklin had similar hobbies and agreed to lend the book, and they got to know each other because of this opportunity and eventually became lifelong friends.
In the traditional impression, people always feel that giving trouble to others will lead to their dissatisfaction.
It's not all like this. If it's just a small favor for others, he generally won't refuse. Moreover, with this opportunity, you and he are no longer strangers. With breaking the ice for the first time, we can get to know each other better and eventually develop into friends, which is an invisible bonus that gives others trouble.
Which of these three do you have the most to say? Let's talk.