How lucky!

Readers can see this book because the author sees the light behind the dark clouds and finally writes down his thoughts and feelings about depression with health and confidence.

I think if a person can't experience something personally, he is not qualified to talk about empathy, and maybe he will be biased against other people's experiences.

As the author said: "For others, it seems nothing. There is a fire in your head, but no one can see the flame. Because depression is largely invisible and mysterious, it is easy to breed prejudice. Prejudice is especially cruel to people with depression, because prejudice affects thoughts, and depression is a disease of thoughts. "

Introduction to the author and the book:

He also writes books for children, such as Shadow Forest, Being a Cat, Santa Boy and Santa Girl.

He has won Smal Tis Literature Award (2009), Blue Peter Literature Award (2009), American Library Association Alex Literature Award (20 1 1) and Yorkshire Youth Achievement Award (2009).

This work has been translated into 29 languages.

The reason to live is the author's review of his life suffering from depression at the age of 24, sharing with readers a life journey in which despair and hope coexist, darkness and warmth interweave.

This book records those incomprehensible and unspeakable painful days from five aspects: falling, landing, rising, life and existence, and how to overcome depression and get a new life with the help of family members.

This book was published in Houlang | Jiangxi People's Publishing House on June 20 18.

1.？ Sick (the day of "death")

When Matt Hagrid was 24 years old, he lived with his girlfriend Andrea in a quiet and beautiful seaside villa in Ibiza, Spain.

In just two weeks in September, they will return to London and bid farewell to their six-year student career and summer job.

Suddenly he had a wrong idea: "I have a strange feeling in my head." There is some physiological activity in the back of my head near my neck, that is, the cerebellum. " Strong pulsation and trembling, like a butterfly trapped inside, have a tingling sensation. "

He suffers from depression. I stayed in bed for three days and nights without sleeping. My girlfriend sends some water or fruit regularly, and he eats tasteless.

"I want to die." This was his strong desire at that time.

Although he lived in the best villa, with the sparkling Mediterranean in front and a circle of almost white beaches and magnificent limestone cliffs by the sea, the scenery was beautiful, but this did not stop him from committing suicide.

He walked to the edge of the cliff without his girlfriend noticing, and stood on the edge of life and death.

A voice in his head urged him, "God, you shouldn't suffer so much. Just jump, close your eyes and jump ... "

He's scared. What if he's not dead? If you are just paralyzed, and then you can't move, you will be trapped in that state forever?

How lucky!

Life gave him a reason not to die-raising his parents, or friends and lovers; It may also come from various possibilities in the future.

We can't imagine what kind of painful entanglement those souls who committed suicide because of depression experienced. I believe they had a life-and-death struggle before they died. What caused them to finally choose suicide?

We miss our elegant and lonely brother, elegant and handsome Kimi, and we are deeply saddened by their sudden death.

At that moment, they bravely walked to the grave. Is it the indifference of family members, the alienation of lovers, the incomprehension of the outside world, or the despair of yourself and the future?

Everyone's soul contains pain that others don't understand. It is much harder to live than to die. Anyone who wants to experience pain can choose a hard way-live well.

2.？ The root of depression

In order to find out whether this mental illness happened suddenly or was hidden for a long time, Matt tried to recall his childhood.

Because according to the research of the World Health Organization, almost half of the psychological disorders appear before 14 years old.

A typical memory is that 10-year-old Matt stood on the steps and cried and asked the nanny named Jenny if he could stay with her until mom and dad came back.

He fantasized that his parents might be robbed, killed or eaten by dogs.

Fear breeds imagination, imagination breeds fear, and makes Matt crazy again and again.

/kloc-at the age of 0/3, Matt first felt strange, which happened a few months after he tried to remove boils with a toothbrush.

The reason is that Matt had a crush on a girl when she was 13 years old, but the girl made a disgusting expression at her friend and said, "I don't want that man to sit next to me. He has spider legs on his face. "

In the afternoon, humiliated Matt shaved off the furuncle with his father's razor and pressed the toothbrush head into his left cheek.

When he went to school again, he dreamed in the dark, talked incoherently about cows, sleepwalked, and then peed beside other people's beds.

As a result, the new nickname "mental illness" was buckled on him. He is lonely, sad, narcissistic and worried about something.

"The only thing that doesn't worry me is probably what I should worry about, and that is worry itself." 1 1 years later, he struggled with anxiety.

Early warning signs of depression include fatigue, inferiority complex, "psychomotor block", loss of appetite, irritability, frequent crying, lack of euphoria and sudden introversion.

He has an image in his mind: in the Royal Theatre, there is a happy devil licking his face in the back seat and lingering … ..

Fear is a monster.

Anxiety and depression, which are combined into one, produce fear.

3.？ How to accompany people with depression or anxiety?

Matt's girlfriend Andrea is always with him when depression attacks. She treated him gently and appropriately, filling the gap caused by anxiety and darkness.

If there are people with depression around you, Matt will teach you how to accompany them in the following ways:

. Know that you are needed and appreciated, even if it doesn't seem so.

. Listen.

. Never say "cheer up" or "cheer up" unless you can provide specific and foolproof operation methods. Toughness is no good, old-fashioned gentle love.

. Depression is a disease. If the patient says something unintentionally, be considerate of them.

. Self-education The most important thing is to understand that things that are easy for you, such as shopping, are impossible challenges for people with depression.

. Don't think this is your fault. It's not your fault that the patient is ill.

. Be patient.

. Accept him or her now.

. If possible, reduce all the work and life pressures of patients.

. Try not to make a fuss about patients' behavior, which will make them feel more like a freak.

"Normal" is subjective and there is no standard answer. There are 7 billion people in this world, and there are 7 billion normals.

Andrea and Matt lived in their parents' house for three long months. Since 2004, happiness has been increasing. He found himself reading, hungry and tireless.

Books are a way to get rid of loneliness, which means turning over a new chapter and leaving yesterday behind.

During that time, he read a lot of books. These books include The Sound, Money, A Guide to the Wilderness, etc.

Not only patients with depression, but anyone who settles down can find spiritual comfort in the book.

4.？ fidget

Depression makes you feel lonely. However, there are thousands of people walking with you in the dark.

Look at the list of depression patients below. They suffer from depression and have a successful career. It will comfort you.

Winston Churchill

Fitzgerald

Stephen King

Abraham lincoln

Kelly fisher

Judy Garland

Princess Diana

newton

charles m. schulz

……

As you can see, these lists include presidents, playwrights and Hollywood comedy stars. They all suffer from depression.

Depression can really happen to everyone, regardless of gender, age and occupation.

The public has too much prejudice against celebrities with depression. It seems that as long as a person gains success and wealth, he is immune to mental illness.

In fact, depression is unprovoked.

For people with depression, what do people who love them fear most?

I'm sure you must have guessed.

Fortunately, most people with depression did not die of suicide. For example, Mark Twain suffered from depression, and he died of a heart attack. Tennessee Williams accidentally swallowed the bottle cap of his eye drops and suffocated to death.

For depression, don't think it is shameful to have depression. Where there is mystery, there is fear. No drug is 100% effective.

But for anxiety, there is one thing that works for anyone. It is: slow down.

Yoga, slow breathing, meditation, acceptance, living in the present and love can all slow you down.

This kind of love is not necessarily romantic love, even without the love of family members, as long as scholars look at the world with loving eyes.

Love is an attitude towards life, and love can save each other.

5.？ The reason to live

There is always a reason to live.

This is Matt's online survey of people with depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts: "What keeps you alive?" The reason is:

@mannyliz

My children. They don't want a mother who doesn't want to live once in a while.

@paperbookmarks

Although I have been in pain, I have the most loyal support group and the best books around me.

@ Debeca

Cancer, bipolar disorder, and other diseases that want me to die early, go to hell!

@lillianharpl

Because choosing the other side is irreversible.

@ameliasward

A sunny morning.

@Teens22

Love is the best reason to live. Love yourself, love others, love life and find beautiful things.

@Despard

I used to be fine, and I will get better in the future.

There are thousands of reasons to live, each of which is worthy of gratitude, respect and concern.

If there are people with depression around you, please don't ask them in a reproachful tone: "How did you get depression?" No one wants to suffer from this disease.

But everything has two sides. It hurts a person, but it may also create a person.

Best wishes to Matt Hagrid, the author of this book. You wrote down the reason to live with pain, but let people out of pain.

Only by understanding depression can we understand the meaning of love, hope and life.

I wish everyone who is caught in the quagmire of pain, get out of pain and regain light and hope.

Thanks to Houlang: Mr. Mole's potato teacher gave me a book. I wish Mr. Potato's new book a big sale. I wish Mr. Potato health and beauty forever.