1, unconditional parenting, Alfie Cohen
This book is the most parenting book I have read repeatedly. I saw it in the library and bought it back. Especially after every conflict with my children, I always turn over this book and reflect on my state when I am angry.
Xiaowu, the translator of this book, has said on many occasions that it is easy to love an obedient child, but it is more difficult to love a less well-behaved child. But it is by loving children who are not easy to love that we can develop our true love and do things that are not easy to do, thus exercising our abilities.
When children grow up day by day, our love chips seem to increase day by day, especially when children go to school. Sometimes words blurt out and we don't know it. We love our children conditionally again and again. "How are you ... how is your mother?"
One day at the dinner table, the children confided to me: Mom, you have changed. You used to be nice and gentle. Since the first grade, you don't love us so much. Before, you didn't understand that our family was always dissatisfied.
I had mixed feelings when the children said this. I read this book again in the evening. Although there is no progress every time, the author Cohen also said: "It is difficult, but it is still worth our all-out."
Educator Yin Jianli said: "Unconditional parenting" is a realm, not a set of methods. The method is limited and the realm is infinite. Parents should read this book, which will bring you endless methods and strength.
2. Secret Rhonda Bourne
This book is not a book on parenting, but knowing the secret in the book-the law of attraction, we will get along better and happier with our children. Rhonda byrne reveals the powerful golden rule that runs in the universe and dominates life, and clearly analyzes how to use this rule to create a happy life.
The law of attraction, everything in your life comes from you. There is mindfulness in the chest, and always believe in understanding children. We look at a child's strengths and progress with a magnifying glass and his weaknesses with a microscope. I often have such a consciousness, how can our relationship with children be disharmonious? Not only for children, but also for our partners, parents, in-laws and friends around us. Especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as a junior, we often turn to positive thinking and eventually gain a different kind of scenery. Old people and children are happy, we will be happy at home, and everything will flourish. The so-called difference between a thought and a thousand miles. Everything is beautiful, we think about it.
Although this book is not a parenting book, it is worth reading in depth.
3, "Little Peas by the Window" Tetsuko Kuroyanagi
The first time I met this book, I flipped through it on a website one night a few years ago. So I held a palm-sized mobile phone until late at night, feeling how much the headmaster (Sousaku Kobayashi) in the book respected and understood the children. Early the next morning, I ordered a paper book in JD.COM. Whether online or in the library, I will buy back my favorite books even after reading them.
It can be said that this book is also Tetsuko Kuroyanagi's memoir, and she is the little Doudou in the book. A child who was expelled from school for being naughty in the first grade. Many children like this book. They like curious little peas. Maybe they will envy Xiao Doudou for having a principal who knows children so well.
What the children read in this book is childlike interest, and what we read is the principal's educational concept, how to educate a special child in the Ba Xue Garden, a small Doudou who was dropped out of school, and become a famous Japanese writer, a famous TV presenter and a goodwill ambassador of UNICEF decades later. Of course, all this has a lot to do with the author's parents, who are also written in the book. Her time in Ba Xueyuan is very important to her life.
4. Reading Manual Jim Geller
65438-0989 Jim Treize was named by the International Reading Organization as one of the eight people who made the greatest contribution to reading promotion in 1980s. Reading Manual is a summary of Trilis's research and practice on children's reading guidance for decades.
The introduction of the book is a little poem to share with you: you may have unlimited wealth, boxes of jewelry and cabinets of gold. But you will never be richer than me-I have a mother who reads to me.
It is the hope of every parent to make children love reading and keep company with books. If you haven't read a story to your child, guide him into the door of reading and don't know how to do it, then this book is the best choice. It will first give you a heavy alarm and let you know the difference between children who study and children who don't study after decades. Secondly, I will tell you the methods: "the stage of reading aloud", "the essentials and taboos of reading aloud" and so on.
At the end of this book, there are nearly ten pages of reading materials recommended by A Jia and Wang Lin. There are picture books and textbooks, which also provide a good reference for parents who will not choose books for their children.
5, "Non-violent Communication" Marshall Luxembourg
When we get rid of the hidden mental violence, love will naturally appear.
In 2006, Dr. Marshall Luxembourg won the Bridge of Peace Award from the Global Village Foundation. He found a way of communication, according to which talking and listening can make people feel connected and live in harmony, which is non-violent communication.
The douban score of this book is 8.4, which I think is also recommended by many people. We get along with children every day, and I don't know how much "violent communication" we use. Often children do something wrong, and we can go on without scruple. This book will tell us how to improve this situation. It is also a book worth reading and rereading. After reading it, there will be a lot of practical exercises.
6. "Looking for Mother" Wang Donghua
The hand that moves the world is the hand that rocks the cradle.
Meng Mu's three-step move makes sense. Mothers play an indispensable role in children's growth.
This book is a monograph on mother education, which was painstakingly honed by the author for ten years. From the mother's point of view, the author has made serious and in-depth thinking on some core issues of human society and put forward a series of major propositions concerning the fate of all mankind.
This book also involves early education. The younger the child, the earlier the parents will start and the clearer the direction will be.
Mo Yan's evaluation: This is a very interesting topic, which tells all kinds of puzzles of "mother" from physiology to psychology. In Wang Donghua's narrative, many things that we think are very common and normal in reality are shocking and thought-provoking.
7. "A good mother is better than a good teacher" Yin Jianli.
This is my first parenting book. Luckily, I met him very early. When I saw it for the first time, I was shocked by her educational concept of "caring without trace" On the second day after reading, the children picked up the dirty leaves, cigarette butts and a twig on the ground. Instead of stopping them, I bent down to observe and study with them. I know how to feel the pain and fear of injection from the perspective of children. Let children love reading, it depends on the impact of this book on me.
There is a chapter in the book in which the author plays Santa Claus to give presents to children every year. We have also practiced it in our lives. From Christmas when our children are two years old to now, we also play Santa Claus to give gifts to our children every year, and the next morning is their most surprising moment. As the book says: it is this kind of surprise that is another layer of more valuable enjoyment.
Of course, many valuable ideas in the book can be put into practice in life. This book is also the godson notebook of Yin Jianli, an education expert. It has refreshing family education principles and many simple and practical operation methods. Secondly, I will tell you how to teach children to be human beings and how to cultivate a self-conscious, self-reliant and self-reliant child.
Yin Jianli also has two books. Free children are the most conscious, and the most beautiful education is the simplest. These two books are also good.
The above books are my favorite parenting books, which can also be said to be touching. I hope it will help the questioner. There are many parenting books at home, such as maria montessori's Secret of Childhood, Rousseau's Emile and John Locke's Random Talk on Education. However, when children go to primary school, I think there are fewer books on this subject. I will continue to study in the future. Children of every age will present different styles, and I will keep up with their rhythm.