A world without regrets was published by American spiritual mentor Will Bowen in. The content of this book can be summarized as "one center, one action, four stages" in one sentence. Its core is to tell people to stop complaining; One sport is the "Don't complain" campaign, also known as the purple bracelet campaign, which invites each participant to wear a special purple bracelet. As soon as you realize that you are complaining, you will switch the bracelet to the other hand, and so on until the bracelet can be worn on the same hand for 2 1 day. The four stages are that it takes four stages to change people's complaining behavior, namely, unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious empowerment and unconscious empowerment.
This book has been recommended and praised by many celebrities. For example, Bill Gates said: No one can reject such books unless you reject all the books; There are also many wonderful ideas in the book, which are worth reading and enjoying. For example, healthy communication means talking directly to the person you have a problem with, and only talking to that person, and talking to another person is complaining; Success means going from failure to failure, still full of enthusiasm and so on.
After reading this book, I feel very rewarding. The following are some thoughts, which are not only my feelings after reading this book, but also my hope and encouragement for the future.
(1) Stop complaining and be a broad-minded person.
Minister Li said: "Organizing cadres is the job of being a man, and being broad-minded is a necessary political accomplishment. We should not care about hard work, nor should we complain when we are tired. " Complaining is actually a sign of not being open-minded. In real work and life, each of us can't always be smooth sailing, and everyone has reasons to complain. But complaining is often useless. When something goes wrong, you should look for the reasons on yourself instead of always blaming others.
Will bowen pointed out in his book: "Complaining is about what you don't want, not what you want. Complaining will affect interpersonal relationships and is the most energy-consuming and useless exercise. " As a group cadre, we should learn not to complain and cultivate Siqi's good qualities of generosity and tolerance. Abandon selfish distractions and treat promotion with a peaceful attitude; Keep indifferent and quiet, repay the society with dedication, and pursue the improvement of quality, the perfection of personality and the realization of ideals in work.
(2) Be contented, learn to be grateful and be a virtuous person.
A person's life is actually very short. What is happiness? I think happiness is a state of mind and relative. The inequality of wealth exists objectively, and the pursuit of material things is endless. Therefore, we should learn to be content with comparison, not blindly compare material fame and fortune, and not haggle over every ounce. From 9 1 1 in the United States to the turmoil of the Thai government this year, and now to the floods and landslides, how many people are facing the displacement where you will go? Compared with them, at least we are still alive. Of course, what we mean by "contentment" is not complacency and stagnation after facing difficulties or making some achievements, but a kind of indifference.
Gratitude is an attitude of being a man and a good moral character. Some people say: There are so many things to complain about in this world, how can we be grateful? In fact, we should be good at empathy and keep a good attitude. Take difficulties as an exercise and setbacks as a challenge.
As a group cadre, we should always be grateful, be grateful to be a person and do things. What we have today is not taken for granted. Every progress we make is inseparable from the cultivation of the organization, the care of the leaders, the help of our colleagues and the support of our families. With gratitude, our hearts will be more open and our work will be more motivated.
(3) Be diligent, never slack off, and be an enterprising person.
From school directly into the office, two years of work let me know that I still have many shortcomings, and every job change will bring me higher requirements and greater challenges. Organizing work is a brand-new and sacred job for me. The organization department is the department in charge of cadres, party member and talents. Its particularity and importance are self-evident. I am proud to be an organizational cadre. At the same time, I deeply feel that the organizational work has heavy tasks, strict procedures and high requirements. Many times, I have to work overtime and do many specific and complicated things, and I can't make any mistakes. Therefore, I have always been in awe of this job. In my future work, I will study hard, be strict with myself in all aspects, and strive to carry forward the spirit of hard work and indifference to fame and fortune. Loyal to their duties, highly responsible professionalism; Hard-working, selfless dedication and the spirit of emancipating the mind and being brave in innovation. Constantly improve their writing ability, thinking ability and comprehensive processing ability. Through hard work, we should strive to achieve the work requirements of "fast pace, practical work, high standards, no mistakes, good state, honesty and integrity" and be a qualified organizational cadre.
(4) Insist on "learning philosophy and using philosophy" and be a thoughtful person.
Philosophy is everywhere in our daily life. After reading this book, I further realized the importance and necessity of "learning philosophy and using philosophy". Bowen is a devout Christian who believes in God and idealism. But we believe in Marxist dialectical materialism and should look at the problem from the viewpoint of dialectical materialism.
Mencius said that "if you believe in books, there will be no books", and Aristotle also said that "I love my teacher and love the truth more". It is true that there are many wonderful ideas in the book, which are also helpful for us to adjust our mentality. But I think there are still many places worthy of our discussion and further discussion. For example, the book says that "you can change your life without complaining", and you can get what you want from a positive perspective, which is too simplistic for our world and life.
Marxist philosophy tells us that matter determines consciousness and consciousness has a negative effect on matter. A positive attitude is a necessary condition for success, not a sufficient condition. If a person wants to succeed, he must have a good attitude, as well as opportunities, efforts and interpersonal relationships. In the book, the author emphasizes that excellent people don't complain. I think this is a bit exaggerated. From a psychological point of view, complaining is actually good for people's mental health. It is a good way for people to vent their emotions and relieve stress. So I don't think complaining is terrible. We can complain occasionally, but we can't get used to complaining, let alone take complaining as the answer to the problem.
As a young organizational cadre, one should think calmly, be good at analyzing and solving problems from a philosophical perspective, think twice before acting, and constantly improve one's social discrimination and insight.
Experience from reading A World Without Complaints 1000 words 2 Complaining is the most natural expression when everyone faces difficulties and unfairness. When we put ourselves in such a situation, we often say, "It's like this. Am I not allowed to complain?" When I saw the title of this book, I still thought it was like a general inspirational book, educating readers like a dictatorship and fascism in an imperative tone, but when I got this book, I was attracted by its media recommendation:
"This book is both wise and directed at people's hearts. Complaining is pushing away what you want. If the world hears it, it will bring you more bad things. "
"Complaining is the most energy-consuming and useless move. Sometimes, we will express our dissatisfaction, not only with people, but also with different life situations; If we can't find someone to listen to our complaints, we will still complain to ourselves in our minds. The magical "no complaining" movement put forward by the author of this book comes at the right time, which is exactly what we modern people need most. We can look at it this way: there are only three things in the world: my business, his business and God's business. Those who complain about themselves should try to learn to accept themselves; Those who complain about others should try to turn complaints into requests; Those who complain about God, please try to pray for your wish. In this way, your life will have an unimaginable big change, and your life will be more beautiful and complete. "
These seemingly dull words have actually revealed the true meaning of life in the face of difficulties. When I finished reading this book. I feel that this book contains all the wisdom of life without regrets. In life, there will always be disappointments and various obstacles. Under the great pressure of city life, it is getting harder and harder not to complain.
However, this book gives the answer. "In this life, we are all in various relationships. With parents, friends, brothers and sisters, lovers, colleagues or people who meet by chance ... you decide the direction of the relationship. It is you who decide the direction of your relationship-not God, not others, not your destiny, not your occupation, age, race, education level, nor how much money you have. Relationships are and will always be a part of life. Is the biggest problem of mankind. This book will tell you how to achieve love, peace and happiness in various relationships and make life beautiful and complete. "
It is true that we face the pressure of career development, competition from peers and the cost of living every day. It seems that we are more and more like sponges. Life likes to drain every drop of energy and every dream in our life, making us slaves who only care about the present under its heavy pressure. Every day, we complain about high housing prices, high oil prices and high inflation, which makes our life unhappy and makes us feel bleak and hopeless. I don't want to excuse these things, nor do I mean that these things are reasonable explanations. But like this passage in the book:
"If the lion can catch up with the antelope, it can survive. If it can't outrun the antelope, it can only starve to death. If the antelope complains about unfairness, who should the prairie antelope complain about its "breakfast"? The antelope can still run, and the grass has no chance to escape! If the antelope wants to survive, it can only survive by strengthening training, improving its running speed and making itself run faster. Even if it can't run the lion, it must run faster than other antelopes. "
It's no use complaining about the facts that we can't change in real life. It can be said that it is constantly strengthening the potential difficulties in your heart. Complaining will kill your will, devour your motivation, and then make excuses for your failure. The attitude towards life that never complains is the first. We can spend our complaining time and energy thinking about solutions to problems, or we can divert our attention and achieve success in another way. As the book review said, "When you encounter setbacks, face them calmly, don't complain, don't give up ... as long as you continue to work hard, you will succeed." "If you treat bad things as good things, you will only be happy and have no complaints."
As the book says, put an invisible purple bracelet on yourself. Then move towards your dreams. "Whatever you want, you have the right to get it. Go on with your dream. Don't suppress yourself, don't make excuses for yourself, and don't use criticism and complaints as an excuse to divert your attention. You should accept this uneasiness and support yourself at such a moment. " The world without regrets also tells us the same truth. Doing is always more important than saying.
People who complain are often pessimistic and even think that the whole world is a miserable world and stop moving forward. This book is to convey such wisdom to us. In the face of difficulties, we will not endlessly complain about cynicism, nor will we comfort ourselves with "it is a blessing to suffer". Instead, let's take action and put on the purple bracelet in life. When we see pressure, unfairness and difficulties, stop complaining as usual, focus on finding the best solution and "treat bad things as good things". If you don't complain about the world, you will really reap the benefits and truly succeed in life.
A World Without Complaints is an inspirational book, which conveys to us the life concept that "complaining is better than changing" with a bracelet. It is second only to the Bible in the poll of "The most important book that affects your life" sponsored by Time magazine, The New York Times and NBC TV. When recommending this book, Bill Gates, the richest man in the world, said: No one can refuse such a book unless you refuse all the books.
Complaining is defined as having dissatisfaction in your heart and blaming the source of dissatisfaction. Everyone longs for a happy and peaceful life, but everyone will inevitably face many setbacks and unsatisfactory things. If the parties can't treat this pressure correctly and turn it into motivation, they will be dissatisfied and begin to complain that they are unlucky and meet people badly.
But in the blog post's view, many times we complain about the environment and others, and it may also be because of individual insecurity and uncertain self-worth. In this psychological background, we need to convey the information that we are victims to the outside world by complaining about the environment, show our Excellence by complaining about others, and make excuses for our shortcomings and fear of growth and progress. But we should not stumble over thorns on the way forward, should not shrink back blindly, and should not give up growth.
The ups and downs of life, every blindness is worthy of our experience and summary. We should stand up bravely and say "I can do it" to ourselves. Constantly surpass and challenge yourself, enjoy the process of challenging yourself, and relive the sadness here. There is no possibility of smooth sailing in life, and each of us should be prepared to take the helm. Enrich yourself anytime and anywhere, learn to preserve value, and you will be in an invincible position. To this end, our top priority is to go out and not complain.
Bowen believes that there are four stages of not complaining, namely unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence and unconscious competence. Unconscious incompetence means that you are not aware of your complaints (incompetence); Conscious incompetence means that you can perceive your own complaints and those of others around you; Self-conscious ability refers to the tendency to use silence to facilitate self-reflection and choose words carefully, so as to say something valuable instead of complaining endlessly; Unconscious empowerment means that you reshape your thinking mode, get used to not complaining and don't need conscious control.
The method of purple bracelet movement is simple: participants find themselves complaining, so they switch their bracelets to the other hand until the bracelet can last for 2 1 day. This always reminds me to remember to stop. This method is feasible because it takes advantage of the unique world view of human culture, but when people believe that something has magical power, they will try to perform some kind of ceremony. Therefore, when a healthy behavior is endowed with magical power or meaning, it is easy to form a habit. In this way, our thinking mode has been reshaped.
The meaning of "a world without complaints" is that success only favors proactive people. As long as you dare to take responsibility and accept challenges, any difficulties and obstacles will become smooth roads. Everything is afraid of being "fixed". As long as you dare to do it, things will naturally go smoothly.
Later, you will find that the difficulties that make you think hard are a piece of cake. Excellent people are people who don't complain. They always sweep away the negative thoughts in their hearts and fill them with sunshine and hope. You will find that people not only admire proactive people, but also admire them. Because there are few such people in the world, there are few successful people in the world. In short, mediocre people are mediocre because of themselves and because of constant complaints.
As an executive of a company, we will encounter all kinds of annoying trifles in our daily work, but we must face them, such as not recruiting satisfactory employees; In the process of material procurement, the supplier can't deliver the goods in time; Emergencies caused by aging facilities and equipment; Communication between people cannot be smooth, and so on. I will constantly adjust my mentality, reduce my complaints and determine my self-worth. Calm is not limited to the immediate difficulties. We should believe in ourselves, make efforts and sweat, face the negative aspects of life positively, adjust our mentality to face difficulties and never complain.
The experience of reading A World Without Complaints 1000 words 4 The opening words of A World Without Complaints say that "purple bracelet" is only a symbol, a medium, a means, and the most fundamental thing is to change your heart. It may be difficult and painful to truly "not complain", but it is only a process of finding inner peace.
The book A World Without Complaints mentions many details that we often complain about in our lives. We always complain about how bad others are and how unfavorable the external environment is. The content in the book reminds me of the recently hit TV series "Defending Marriage". Zhao Baogang, the director of the play, was asked, "What is the secret of winning Defending Marriage?" At that time, he replied: "Don't try to ask others, all you have to do is change yourself." I think this sentence by director Zhao is similar to the spiritual realm advocated by "don't complain" As the saying goes, state of mind determines state. Only by correcting your own mentality can you discover the beauty of others.
When I think back to college, I always hear which dormitory quarrels and ask the reason. It is nothing more than who doesn't pay attention to hygiene and who stays up too late to influence others. It is always trivial things that will lead to a war. The four people in our dormitory are not completely indifferent to each other, but because they are patient, considerate and good at communication, they have never quarreled. This is always the way people get along with each other. You have to forgive others and forgive others. If you have time to clean, what about helping others clean? If you really influence others, why can't you change your schedule from others' standpoint? Many things always seem so simple, but I don't know why humans always complicate them. Isn't "don't complain" more patience, understanding and communication with others, and more introspection, demands and changes with yourself?
Think about the current job, day after day, sometimes hard, but with little effect, so we always look for reasons on others, such as so-and-so not cooperating, incorrect guidance, too strong opponents and so on. There are always thousands of reasons, but none of them are about themselves. Even if there are, it's too bad.
Now think about it, the only person we can "complain" is always ourselves. Only by "complaining about yourself" can it be transformed into productivity and motivation for progress. This kind of "complaining" is meaningful to others and to oneself. It is stupid and useless to complain about others and the outside world. This negative psychology will make you never make progress and never succeed.
Many times, we will feel unhappy because we ask too much but can't achieve it; Many times, we feel very disappointed, because we always make up the objective world according to our own ideas, only to find that the facts are not what we imagined. Happiness is really easy, just cherish the present; It's really easy to be satisfied, just accept the reality with a normal heart.
Read Don't Complain about the World, and remind yourself with a purple bracelet: Never try to ask others, all you have to do is change yourself!
A world without regrets: success only favors those who are proactive. As long as you dare to take responsibility and accept challenges, any difficulties and obstacles will become smooth roads. Everything in the primary school Chinese teaching paper is afraid of being "done". As long as you dare to do it, things will naturally go smoothly. Later, you will find that the difficulties that make you think deeply are all small things. Excellent people are people who don't complain. They always sweep away the negative thoughts in their hearts and fill them with sunshine and hope.
During the winter vacation, I got the book "The World" without complaint and couldn't wait to finish it. I find that complaining is such a bad thing. The worst thing is that we often fall into complaining without realizing it. Over time, seeing things has become a habit and a state of mind. In the "cycle of complaints".
Fortunately, in this book, the author also patiently tells us what the reasons for complaining are, what complaining will bring to our lives, how to stop complaining, how to make people around us stop complaining, and how to be a positive and optimistic worker and happy self. All these have benefited me a lot.
After careful reading, I really noticed the truth. Some people may say, don't complain about how to let people vent, and don't complain about being sick for a long time. In fact, not complaining is a realm of life, and it is a connecting way to let go of setbacks and dissatisfaction to find and pursue new goals. If you really don't complain, with hard work and struggle, your career will be more successful and your life will be better.
In real life, when we are eager to find happiness and happiness in life, each of us will inevitably encounter many setbacks and failures or unsatisfactory things. At this time, some people can't treat it correctly, which leads to many complaints and complaints. They often complain about heaven, land, fate, colleagues and leaders ... In fact, the biggest victim of complaints is themselves.
Although complaining has no obvious consequences, gratitude and tolerance bring us another life. If we do this, our life will be happier. It takes a process not to complain. Join the "Don't complain" activity, wear a purple bracelet, let happiness take the place of complaining, and close the door of complaining.
Think about it carefully, there are really few reasons to complain in life, but everyone doesn't want to complain, but they can't help complaining. Perhaps after many setbacks and hardships, people need to complain more, but what is the use of complaining and what problems can it solve? Complaining for a long time, maybe one day we will really become modern "Xianglinsao". We should learn to give up more and give up the hurt and pain brought by past setbacks. We should be full of confidence in the future and find more excuses for ourselves to move on.
At work, we should give up complaining. We often complain about the poor working environment, discordant colleagues, low salary and so on, but when we give up complaining, be grateful and work with a tolerant heart, you will find that everything you expect will come naturally again. Too much complaining can not only solve the problem, but only make your mood worse. After learning not to complain, you will feel more cheerful and have the energy to face all kinds of problems in life.
There are many famous sayings in the book, but I deeply remember one sentence: Anyone and any team want to succeed, don't complain, because complaining is not as good as change, and they should be tolerant of criticism and have the motivation to solve problems. Friend, try to join the "No Complaining" activity! Don't rush through this process, it's not a game, but a process. From the moment you put on the purple bracelet, you are changing. You use your will to complete a challenge and create a challenge for yourself that you want to live a life without complaining. Give up complaining and believe in yourself!
The book says, "You will be grateful for the smallest things, even things you once took for granted." "Living a life of gratitude, not complaining, can exert this power to ensure health." Yes, people who are grateful for life will always be nourished, and even if they encounter great difficulties, they will certainly survive. Those who like to complain will even become a disaster in the future.
I once read such a passage: "live in a grateful world: be grateful to the person who scolded you because he contributed your wisdom;" Be grateful to the person who stumbles you, because he strengthens your ability; Be grateful to the person who abandoned you, because he taught you to stand on your own feet; Be grateful to the person who cheated you, because he improved your knowledge; Be grateful to the person who hurts you, because he has honed your mind ... "This is a positive attitude and a wise attitude towards life. Everyone has such a grateful heart, so life will be practical and confident! Because of gratitude, we have a colorful society.
The action of "not complaining" is just a key. In our busy life and work, with this key, we can start our life without complaining, face life with a positive attitude, become a happy person and a grateful person, and let us all have a "pure and flawless" world-a world without complaining!
Everyone's life cannot be smooth sailing. When we encounter something worth complaining about, we may try not to talk, but think rationally first and then take immediate action to change the situation. I think a sentence in the book is right, "Our thoughts create our world, and our words show our thoughts."
Many times, perhaps it is the words we complain that have changed our world. We could be relaxed, positive, optimistic and enterprising, but we may become miserable, pessimistic, heavy and inaction because of complaining.
The book "A World Without Complaints" has opened a beautiful life for me to eliminate complaints, so change it from now on. Believe in the power of the purple bracelet, believe in your own strength, and you can overcome complaints and create a new world.