Seeing that I took out this book, Bear was a little unhappy: Mom, I have read this book.
At that time, I thought it would be very simple, but I still insisted: just read it quickly ~ ~
But things are not so smooth: after so long, the original "recited" content has long been forgotten, and the bear asked me to read it to him first; But I insist that this book is mostly cvc words, and he should be able to read it by spelling, so I hope he can try it himself (of course, there are my presuppositions and worries: I want to "test" the actual combat effect of his spelling CVC, for fear that he will become an "endorsement" after reading it once).
So ..... "But Mop didn't come", spell each word one by one, and then forget how to pronounce the previous one; It's easy to pronounce the first three words correctly, and then throw away the sentence of not ... but Mop doesn't have every page. I have to spell it one by one again, and I get stuck in not every time.
The result can of course be imagined.
Before he finished reading it, the bear completely collapsed. He threw the book on the ground and said angrily, I don't want to play now! I don't want to see it.
Last class, Teacher Jiang just said "children can be forced if necessary", and I'm not completely out of temper: every page is the same sentence. Spelled it three times. Should I recite it? How can it be like this! I tried to keep a calm tone: let's do it again.
The bear refused, so I upped the ante: if this sentence doesn't make sense, we need to read the book again.
Maybe the pressure of "rereading once" is too great. Bear insists on trying another sentence, but the effect is still not good.
He put the book down, raised his face, and tears fell from his big eyes: I don't want it, mom, I don't want to read it, I just don't want to spell it now. Say that finish, open your mouth and cry out loud.
Watching him cry piteously, I stretched out my hands. Little bear rushed over and cried out: mom, please help me wipe my tears ~ ~ soft in my arms.
My furry little head leans in front of me, and my mood gradually cools down. Wipe your tears with a paper towel and touch your head. The bear slowly calms down.
It's kind of like talking to yourself. I said, that's weird. Obviously, the book we read before has become so difficult this time.
The bear didn't speak, but I felt him stop.
I went on to say, well, because you used to listen to your mother read and write it down. Being able to match the sentences memorized with the words in the book one by one is actually quite powerful.
The bear looked up at me, and the evaluation of "great" seemed to make him more useful.
I smiled at him to express encouragement, and then continued: At that time, we had not learned to spell words, and they were very happy if you remembered the name of their group. Now that you know cvc, they won't be as happy to remember it in the team as before. Every one of them wants you to remember his name, so if you call this one or not, he will jump up and shout, no, bear, you haven't called my name yet!
The bear listened and smiled. Just as I was about to tell him more exaggeratedly and vividly, he suddenly looked up and said to me, Mom, the lid of my brain is open!
This is a bit unexpected-we have discussed the "brain cover", either because it is a game or because I lost my temper. This is the first time I've heard bear talk about his emotions-but I still picked up his hand very cooperatively: really? The lid is open? Let me see! How do I turn it off?
The bear stood on four fingers and giggled. I bent down for him, and he continued to stretch out his hand-at this time, everything became a game again, and the anxiety atmosphere just now was swept away.
After joking for a while, I went back to reading. I continued the metaphor of "roll call": we called their names one by one.
It's obviously much smoother this time. Although bear can spell not and forget the pronunciation of but in front, although he can spell one by one and stammer when he rereads the sentence, my reminder becomes: bear bear! You forgot me! No, and I ~ ~ bear will read it again from the beginning with a smile-it only takes a minute or two to finish a book.
The biggest difference is that when you are happy, it is obviously easier to remember the contents of the book than when you are forced.
Postscript:
In fact, I always remember that teacher Jiang said that children are not easy to have a sense of accomplishment in the spelling stage and are prone to depression. At this time, it is necessary to rely on the perseverance of parents to help him and accompany him through this difficult time.
My deeper understanding is that when children are depressed and have difficulty in making progress, it is more important than helping them to adjust their emotions so as not to be infected by their "normal but unpleasant emotions". Our roles are supporters and helpers. Only when we are calm and even positive can we spare no effort to "help children"-not easy, but worth doing.
Because, in my young child's heart, I am his day.