Children have a superior position in the family and receive special care everywhere.

Eating alone is the most typical example.

The family eats together, and when they meet something they like to eat, the children take the whole plate away directly;

Eat only pointed strawberries, only the sweetest heart among watermelons, only the stuffing in steamed stuffed buns ... throw the rest of the unpalatable food to others;

All the snacks you buy are huge, and mom and dad will cry when they eat them.

..... The overbearing behavior of children like little emperors is not formed in a day or two. Parents should reflect: Did our long-term special treatment for him "feed" the selfish "devil" in his human nature? As a result, he lost the ability to love others, failed to realize the happiness of sharing, and lost his kind nature.

02/ easy to satisfy

Children who have been easily satisfied by their parents since childhood, what they want will appear immediately, and how terrible will it be when they grow up? A French educator once said: Do you know any method that can definitely make your children unhappy? This method is to be obedient to him.

Parents should remember that the requirements for their children should not be met blindly, and they should distinguish right from wrong, and reasonable requirements can be met or delayed; Unreasonable request, can't promise.

Allow children to live a lazy life.

How to destroy children's willpower and good habits, a lazy and indulgent holiday is enough!

How many parents made a serious plan for their children before the festival, but turned a blind eye to it when they implemented it, resulting in children doing nothing and muddling along:

If you sleep until noon, you can't stand it;

Stay at home all day watching TV and playing games;

Self-care ability is seriously degraded, "clothes come to reach out and eat";

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If the good habits developed by children in kindergarten do not continue into family life, they will have to start all over again when they return to school!

Childhood is the best time to cultivate children's independent ability, and it is irresponsible to indulge children's bad habits of being free and loose!

04/ Pray and complain to children and give inappropriate rewards.

"Good boy, after you eat this bowl of rice, your mother will buy you toys!"

"Baby, don't cry. Mom will take you to the amusement park right away. "

"If you can go to bed early, I'll give you 5 yuan!"

Do you often give in to your child because you are soft-hearted, even communicate with your child in a pleading and flattering tone, or often give him inappropriate rewards in order to make your child obedient?

Rudolph Drex, an American child psychologist, once cited an example: a pair of brothers, when facing their mother, often play around, making their mother in a hurry; When dad is at home, they are very disciplined. Because both brothers know very well that mom easily gives in, while dad usually keeps his word and carries out the decision unequivocally.

Living in a conditioned environment for a long time, children will be "immune" to these conditions one day, constantly challenging your bottom line, and the prestige of education will eventually be lost.

05/ Overprotection

The child fell and he didn't respond. The adults rushed to check the whole body and exclaimed: "Does the baby hurt?" Does the baby hurt? "

Seeing a bug, the child is preparing to go forward to observe, and the parents quickly stop it: "Stay away from it, it may bite!" " "

As the saying goes, "Newborn calves are not afraid of tigers". What if your child becomes more and more timid, crying and clingy? Parents should reflect on whether they usually overreact to some of his behaviors, which leads him to always be nervous and afraid when things happen, and always be timid in doing things. Deprivation of independence

For the absolute safety of their children, some parents want to hold their babies in their hands and hold them in their mouths all the time, completely ignoring their children's demands for independence. This is one of the manifestations of love.

"You are still young and don't understand. Listen to your mother! "

"Come on, mom will help you."

"The meal is a little hot, mom feeds you!"

Think about whether you often do this in your life, which makes children less and less confident and gradually lose their ability to live. In the end, children just follow their parents without their own ideas and become irresponsible social "giant babies".

As the saying goes, children should be "beaten and fed", so parents should let go of the hands that properly bind their children, so that children can practice their skills and develop their abilities better and faster, and become an independent, brave and full-hearted person.

07/ Face to face defense

In the library, a boy is playing a game with a loud voice. The staff next to him came forward to persuade him to stop. Unexpectedly, the father sitting next to him got angry and said, "What's wrong with playing games? You this personnel how so much, how others don't care ... "

The father's unprincipled protection of calves is also amazing. In fact, this is not to love the child at all, but to destroy him!

At home, such protective behaviors often occur.

The father is in charge of the child, and the mother looks at it: "Don't be too strict, he is still young!" " "

Parents are educating their children. Grandma stands up and says, "Don't scare him, he will grow up!" " "

We can't always act as "protective umbrellas" and "shelters" for children. He will enter the society one day. If we always "don't make rules, don't change small mistakes, and protect him face to face", then one day he will make a big mistake, and it will be too late!

"Violence, doting and indulgence are the three disasters that destroy a child's healthy personality." Parents should clearly realize that doting is not really loving a child. Sooner or later, the children will leave us and live independently. Our love should not be the cocoon that binds him, but the armor that gives him strength!