1. American Academy of Pediatrics Encyclopedia of Parenting
Background: One of the two books prepared during pregnancy, as long as you brush the parenting list, basically 99% will recommend it. The American Academy of Pediatrics itself has the best pediatrician in the United States, and then American parenting concepts and practices will be reflected in it.
After reading: This book can solve 90% of the problems you encounter from pregnancy to child growth, especially in the first three years. It consists of two parts. The first part is based on the age of the child. For example, 1 month, 1~3 months ... I will look at it roughly when the child is about to enter the next stage and use it as a dictionary. Have an outline in mind, don't panic when you meet anything. The second part is about children's common diseases, from colds to heart diseases, and also about sleep problems.
2. Sears Encyclopedia of Intimate Parenting
Background: Another tome hoarded during pregnancy. The writer is Si Sears. William Sears is a member of the American Academy of Pediatrics and a famous pediatrician. His wife Martha Sears is a nurse, and the other two are their sons. This combination obviously laid the foundation for your start. The concept of "intimate parenting" and the method of carrying a baby with a backpack are the attractions of this book.
After reading: This book is more grounded than the first one, and it solves more detailed problems. I watched it after pregnancy, mainly the first part, how to prepare for a new life. Very detailed, such as how to give birth safely and smoothly, how to bring dad into intimate parenting, and how to recover after childbirth ... I was deeply impressed by the "constipation" and "work and parenting" parts of the child's growth. You think you're not talking to doctors and nurses. You think you are good friends, and they happen to be professionals. It's quite profitable!
3. The secret of childhood
Background: maria montessori is an Italian preschool educator and the founder of Montessori education law. Now many kindergartens are proud to be Montessori kindergartens. When a person can name an educational idea after her, why not start? Douban score is 8. 1.
After reading: This book was a bit difficult at first. Maybe it is translation, maybe it is theory. In fact, there is an idea: "When you bring your children into this world, you should do your parents' duty. Look at the problem from the child's point of view, don't be above it. "
I read this book carefully when my child was about 7 months old, mainly because the child began to lose his temper. Montessori compared the child's temper to "a fever without corresponding pathological reasons." It is an internal obstacle, an unmet need and a state of psychological tension. Children's hearts speak for their own needs and seek protection for themselves. "Knowing this, you will better understand why children lose their temper.
4. Encyclopedia of Baby Sleep
Background: You don't know that sleeping is still a problem until you have children! In the second month, I invited the new moon, and the child was black and white. But it's a little difficult for children to sleep, and I'm in a hurry. At that time, I saw the official account of WeChat, Xiao Bensheng, and I caught up with this book. But many habits are too late. I read the electronic version.
After reading: I focused on the corresponding chapters when the child was 7~9 months old and 10~ 15 months old. The main gain is that children of different ages have different sleep patterns. Maybe they will eat, sleep and eat for the next month, then sleep for an hour and wake up for an hour. A little bigger, it is two people sleeping, and a little bigger, it is a nap. Then the nap is reduced or even not. After reading this book, you will deal with the sleep problems of children of different ages. It would be better if you saw it during pregnancy. The problem of sleeping with milk can be solved with great probability.
5. The sensitive period of catching children
Background: I saw it two months before the baby was born, yes! That was two months before birth! Douban scored 8. 1, and collected more than 200 real cases of sensitive children (0 ~ 10 years old). The child still has a sensitive period. What do you mean? Read it!
After reading: It looks very fast, about an hour or two. When I first read this book, although it was really in line with my life experience, I also had a kind of "is it true?" Is there a scientific basis? "Such a problem. Until I confirmed its correctness in a chat with my friends at the maternity school. It should be said that after reading the book "Sensitive Period", you will understand why children behave differently in different periods and deal with them maturely. More importantly, you can make preparations early to meet your child's sensitive period.
6. A good mother is better than a good teacher
Background: The author Yin Jianli is an expert in education. She trained a particularly excellent daughter herself, advanced placement, excellent grades, admitted to two famous schools, and good personality. Douban scored 8.9 points, which was such a high score in 2009. There must be a reason!
After reading: What should a qualified mother look like? (1) Look at the problem from the child's point of view (2) Look at growth from a long-term perspective, read books and do homework. (3) grow up with children, have their own opinions, and don't blindly follow teachers and others. These are the three points I summarized after reading it at that time. "People say that pregnancy is the most beautiful trip. I appreciate your coming. I am grateful to my mother for meeting this book, and I wish to be the happiest mother and daughter with you in this life. " I wrote the words then. A book that softens mother's heart
7. Seeds of happiness
Background: When your child is a little older, you can study how to accompany your child to read picture books. There are thousands of people who recommend picture books in Qian Qian, but few people really teach you how to take your children to read picture books. I searched and found this book, written by Mr. Matsuju, the "father of Japanese picture books". Douban score is 8.8.
After reading: Three things refreshed my understanding: 1. Reading picture books to children is not to teach them knowledge, but to perceive the world with her, and companionship is better than everything else. Among them, adults also need to enjoy it. 2. Picture books are mainly pictures, but there are also differences between pictures, which requires parents to have certain artistic discrimination. Parent-child reading is better than watching TV all day. Children need to be accompanied before going to primary school, and parents are the first responsible person for their education. It only takes one night to finish reading this book, but it is definitely a guide book that parents and children must read.
8. When I meet someone.
Background: I always read classic books on parenting, and sometimes I burn my brain. Therefore, it should be interesting to see how people around us and contemporary people raise children. This book was published on 20 16, and the douban score was 8. 1. Frankly speaking, the subtitle of this book attracts me more-the relationship between mother and child determines all the relationships of children. Is it so exaggerated? Is it a moral kidnapping of the mother?
After reading: Open this book, you will have a hearty feeling. Even before reading it, I sent a circle of friends: the best education is no education. Being accompanied by love and not disturbing is the best practice of concentration. We don't need to know the children's spiritual world like the palm of our hand, but we need to always put down the assumption that adults are highly trained and experience it with awe.
This book directly tells the voices of many new mothers. The secret we can do to cultivate children is to follow their nature, let go of their posture and let them grow with you.
9. Raising children in the countryside
Background: I read this book when my child was three months old, when I was on the train back to my hometown in Hubei. It's just, it fits. Douban scored 8. 1, and the author Feng Lili is unknown. A family of three has social obstacles in the city, and children also encounter many problems. Later, they accepted their friends' advice and went to live in the country. What is the essence of education? What are the simple parenting principles in rural areas? So I opened the book.
After reading: This is the most grounded book in this book list, and you will see the diary of the author's family of three living in the country. Tao Xingzhi said: "Children's life is education". But this is what this city lacks most. Children's clothes should be washed every day, and a baby should have an adult full-time guardian, sometimes even two young adults plus four old people. But in rural areas, when children work with adults in the fields, feed pigs at home and cook together. And the parenting experience of fireworks. This is the essence of this book.
10. How to repair his personality defect?
Background: After becoming a parent, you will think more and more about coming from a family. On the one hand, your own family will leave a mark on you; On the other hand, what you say and do to your child is also building her family of origin. So, how to repair your personality defects in order to give your child a good family background? This is my original intention of opening this book. Douban score is 8.3.
After reading it, you will find that no matter how great you think "Descendants" is, there will still be some vague influences. Especially as a new parent, you may learn how to give your child a good family background from this book, instead of being ignorant. Adjust those small influences again.
For many readers in China, under the influence of the word "filial piety" culture, it is difficult for us to tell our parents about the adverse effects of some measures, let alone fight directly, as Susan Forward and Craig Barker mentioned in their authors. We should accumulate such courage. If not, please pay attention to which family is born toxic. It is our lifelong proposition to realize and then cut off the influence.